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Just been diagnosed with BPD while in hospital.

Connorisnotokay

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I have very mixed emotions at the moment. How did you all take it when they told you that you have BPD?
 
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I was relieved after doing loads of research on it because it explained a lot about me and my behaviour, but also saddened by the stigma attached
 
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It was a relief for me too. It explained so much. And by understanding its roots, it gave context to work on it in therapy.
 
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I was relieved after doing loads of research on it because it explained a lot about me and my behaviour, but also saddened by the stigma attached
It explains a lot for me. I just don’t know how to get better if it’s my personality. That means I’m stuck with it forever, doesn’t it? They want me to do DBT therapy. I don’t want to be going in and out of hospital every year.
 
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Lunus is currently doing dbt, so are a lot of folks here. I’ve heard nothing but good things about the program from people with bpd. I am scheduled to start it myself in a month or so. It gives you practical tools to counter the negative aspects of the disorder.
 
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It explains a lot for me. I just don’t know how to get better if it’s my personality. That means I’m stuck with it forever, doesn’t it? They want me to do DBT therapy. I don’t want to be going in and out of hospital every year.
you can learn to cope with it and lessen the symptoms, and I think a lot of people here would recommend you to go on the DBT course, I've been waiting for over a year to be put on it because the waiting list is long in my area, I think you'll learn a lot even if you aren't so keen at the moment
 
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If their offering DBT I strongly recommend you give it a go. But it’s not a quick fix it can last up to two years. My daughter has BPD and I struggled to talk to her without her getting cross at me. But she’s been doing it for six months and the change is dramatic. She’s had to stop for a while as she’s going in to have surgery but hopes to start again in September . It’s changed her that much she’s now doing voluntary work and talking about going back to work when she recovers from surgery.
 
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If their offering DBT I strongly recommend you give it a go. But it’s not a quick fix it can last up to two years. My daughter has BPD and I struggled to talk to her without her getting cross at me. But she’s been doing it for six months and the change is dramatic. She’s had to stop for a while as she’s going in to have surgery but hopes to start again in September . It’s changed her that much she’s now doing voluntary work and talking about going back to work when she recovers from surgery.
I am going for it ASAP. They said it will take at least two years. I have to be put in a waiting list first, I hope I’m not waiting for a long time🙏🏻
 
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I am going for it ASAP. They said it will take at least two years. I have to be put in a waiting list first, I hope I’m not waiting for a long time🙏🏻
I think it depends on the area your in. But from what others have said on here I think it’s quite a long wait
 
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I think it depends on the area your in. But from what others have said on here I think it’s quite a long wait
I’m in hospital at the moment, so maybe they will put me on a waiting list while I’m still here and then when I go back to the community I might not have to wait so long. If I had to wait, I’d get bored and probably end up back in hospital. I live in the UK near London, does anyone know the waiting list times? I think it may be about a year, but I’m not sure.
 
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I’m in hospital at the moment, so maybe they will put me on a waiting list while I’m still here and then when I go back to the community I might not have to wait so long. If I had to wait, I’d get bored and probably end up back in hospital. I live in the UK near London, does anyone know the waiting list times? I think it may be about a year, but I’m not sure.
im guessing it will be high demand there, but I mean if you are really desperate and have the money you could get a private dbt therapist
 
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im guessing it will be high demand there, but I mean if you are really desperate and have the money you could get a private dbt therapist
They don’t offer DBT here at the hospital ( and it’s the biggest in Berkshire: my county) so I will have to wait until I’m discharged. I’m on section 3, but I think in another month they will discharge me
 
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i took it hard when i was first diagnosed, made me feel even more confused, emotional and suicidal
 
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It explains a lot for me. I just don’t know how to get better if it’s my personality. That means I’m stuck with it forever, doesn’t it? They want me to do DBT therapy. I don’t want to be going in and out of hospital every year.
For me it was a godsend to be diagnosed. For one it explained my erratic behaviour and compulsive nature and secondly it allowed my wife to view my behaviour with more sympathy and compassion, as she recognises I’m ill rather than doing things on purpose.
Do not be afraid. A Personality Disorder need not be permanent at all. The vast majority of people recover and lead normal and productive lives.
If you, or anybody, wants to really understand the disorder, I would highly recommend the book by Blaise Aguirre and Gillian Galen called Mindfulness for BPD. I got it in Audio format and it is brilliant. It covers DBT. I have now started DBT Therapy and it was no insightful my therapist said I could skip the Mindfulness section as I’d already done it. DBT is the way to recovery! Most say it takes years but I don’t know why it should. You can become mindful very quickly and that DOES take away your suffering.
I also like videos on YouTube especially from Dr Daniel Fox. He explains all there is to know on BPD so just search his name if you’re interested.
 
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they didnt actually tell me I have it they wrote it on the letters and stuff they wrote about me, I read the letters and stuff and saw it in there.

nor did they ever do anything other than CBT. No DBT or whatever, just CBT then "it dont work tough luck get on with it goodbye time waster"
 
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