Judge others

[IcyShadow]

If someone I know, say at work, starts being nice to me I think they're taking the p#ss. I mean, as if they can't be trusted. People who are nice to you will let you down, because they are after something.that they can gain from you. I find it hard to trust anyone I know, even people I've trusted in the past, who were good to me.
It's different on here as nobody really knows me, and can't get close. It's hard to explain.
Does anyone else find it hard to trust others for fear they'll end up hurting you?

 

[kimidare]

Hi,

I have some difficulties to trust others.
Even my boyfriend, I sometimes think that he will abandon me or become violent, for no reason.
When I talk about personal problems, I take the risk that they will return the knowledge against me. So I prepare myself to endure if they want hurt me ^^".

I tell to myself that I m the only person who can destroy myself, nobody else. They don t have this power on me.

Here it s easier to avoid somebody who hurts you, and you can report in the worst case.

 

[PurplePrinny80s]

The only person I truly trust is my partner. My family and my in-laws, even when I got close to them, hurt me deeply. I am kind and civil but never let anyone get close. And I have no problem telling people I don't trust anyone. They respect that or they don't get to be a part of my life. However, they can trust me.

 

[IcyShadow]

The only person I truly trust is my partner. My family and my in-laws, even when I got close to them, hurt me deeply. I am kind and civil but never let anyone get close. And I have no problem telling people I don't trust anyone. They respect that or they don't get to be a part of my life. However, they can trust me.

It's good that you have someone to trust. Family have let me down in the past too, when I was at my absolute worst. I like that you tell others how it is about trust. I think I need to do that too. Thanks for your reply

 

[Linda1989]

It happens to me all the time everytime someone is extremely nice to me they in up treated me like shit after. Thats why I try not to get friendly with people.

 

[soul searching]

I have somehow changed and can accept kindness now. Very difficult to accept praise. Also, relationships with anyone often scare me because I'm expecting them to go south.

 

[PetitPois]

There are people in my life I do not trust with good reason. Meeting people, I tend to start off in a place of trust and adjust my position if necessary. I think this is not a great idea so do not recommend it. However it seems to be my default position.

I do shy away from getting close to people generally, yet am pretty open when talking to them. I am out of practice when it comes to being sociable I think.

 

[Barny67]

Only ppl I trust are my family or what’s left of them. I got a big wall circling around that no one gets past & that’s how it’s been of 15yrs. I can’t see it ever changing, again.

 

[treasurebox]

People are not perfect so it may be hard to trust others, but they can be given the chance to be trusted. It can hurt us if others break trust, but we can always choose to forgive and accept them because they are not perfect. We can also choose to forgive them but say goodbye to them. But for some instances, it will be good to give them another chance because the universe revolves around giving chances as well. It is upto you to decide what will make you happy and peaceful.

 

[Mistral]

The old salesman technique of buttering up the prospective customer certainly carries into personal relationships. I had a friend who used this technique a lot, but it took a while for me to recognise it. Looking back I think a poker face and refusing to take the bait from day one is the best response.