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Jobs for ppl w/ extreme social anxiety?

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Erki17

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I have severe social anxiety and really REALLY want to start earning money.
I managed to get a callback from a fast food restaurant but completely freaked out and hung up right after they said, "hello".
I can't even look people in the eyes.
Any job ideas for people like me?
 
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I have severe social anxiety and really REALLY want to start earning money.
I managed to get a callback from a fast food restaurant but completely freaked out and hung up right after they said, "hello".
I can't even look people in the eyes.
Any job ideas for people like me?
I would probably look to volunteer first, to get you some experience, and more confidence.

It's also much easier to find, and looks good on your CV
 
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Thanks. I volunteered at an animal shelter for quite a while but quit when more people started volunteering.
It got to the point where I thought a 10 year old girl was staring at me and judging me while I was cleaning cat rooms. I had to pretend I was sick and left early and just never went back.
At this point, if it doesn't help me (financially) or animals, then I'm not helping anyone. :(
 
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Thanks. I volunteered at an animal shelter for quite a while but quit when more people started volunteering.
It got to the point where I thought a 10 year old girl was staring at me and judging me while I was cleaning cat rooms. I had to pretend I was sick and left early and just never went back.
At this point, if it doesn't help me (financially) or animals, then I'm not helping anyone. :(
I'd still put this on the CV, but not in this much detail.

If asked, I'd just say I worked there for a few months, but they had too many volunteers, so I left.
 
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If you're struggling even with phone calls then you might need a bit more in the way of therapy/counselling to help you out a bit more first though. But certainly you're going to need to take it in small steps so no point jumping in at the deep end and applying for anything that is going to be busy and have lots of people. That will only freak you out and set you back.

You would need something that has a fairly low or infrequent amount of customers I would guess, so that it doesn't become overwhelming. Do you have any shops nearby that are quiet like that, that you could maybe contact regarding possible volunteer/part-time roles?
 
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I am actually in therapy, it's not doing too well.
I don't think there are any shops like that around where I live, and the few that are quiet aren't hiring because they don't get business.
Thank you for the suggestions.
 
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I used to have a big problem with social anxiety, which I put down to the medications I was on at the time, but anyway. I really struggled with it but it has been the easiest thing to overcome precisely because it is a problem of thought, not of mood or other things that cannot be changed quite so easily.

The rationality goes out of the window and it feeds on the primitive parts of your brain, your 'animal' brain as they call it; the fight or flight response. But once you get a handle on it and really think about what it is, it becomes easier to beat. For example, you can rationalize to yourself that a 10 year old girl isn't going to cause you any harm, there is no reason to fear her. Then you ask yourself about why you are afraid, why are you anxious, why are you wanting to run away. It doesn't make any sense to think such things does it, just as it made no sense to me to fear sitting in waiting rooms when there was nothing for me to fear. It is a trick of the mind and once you get inside of that fact and see it for what it is, it comes undone.
 
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I used to suffer with social anxiety and also struggled with phone calls. I now work in a busy public facing role. Something that really helped me was a book called Dare to Connect by Susan Jeffers.

I agree that volunteering is a good way of building your confidence without the pressure of a job. It may not financially benefit you now, but it's a stepping stone towards paid work. I think for now I would avoid busy public facing roles such as shops or receptionist jobs and look for something working as part of a small team to start to build your confidence. Maybe something office based, stuffing envelopes for a charity or filing/photocopying etc. I know our local hospital has volunteers that do things like sorting the post.

Another idea if you wanted to build your confidence talking to people would be volunteering at a day centre or nursing home, you could be involved in helping with activities and chatting to people who don't get visitors, even things like painting nails and doing hair and make up to help people feel pampered and valued. I love talking to older people, they have so much life experience to share and it's good practice at conversation.
 
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problem with volunteering is it's a step towards work and the dwp willl act accordingly and cut benefits you may rely on and unless you've got a social wanker to deal with the fallout
 
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In my case, I am not allowed via the incapcity benefits originally known as, to do paid work, and I am happily stuck with volunteering. Volunteering in no way does it not affect benefits at all, not unless off course, one would owe up, and this is where, best to keep quiet, volunteer and still receive benefit payment, as I say, I am not allowed to do paid work at alll, due to my pshycosis background and breakdown back in 2004.


In answer to the question, on this thread, I agree wholeheartedly best to aim for tasks, like mailings meaning envelope filling for charities, and office volunteering I now do volunteering copy typing role, which I am on a summer b reak at the moment, a long summer break due to my support being away, and I am looking for other opportunities along side. On an ad hoc meaning not regular basis.


So once again, in no way, volunteering doesn't affect benefits at all, people can still receive their normal full benefit allowances, regardless what benefits you are on, and volunteer combined.


I just happened to have caught this thread, and felt I had to give support in this and advice.


I'm Natalie, and I am usually around here at MHF, sometimes just Wellbeing Forums, however, if topics catch my eye via other forums sections, I will jump in to offer advice, support and any trick tips ideas.


Welcome aboard by the way.

I do understand about the phone problem by the way, I have speech communication problems, and via mental health as well, anxiety which i suffer with, and I had a couple of certain types of calls in once for me, and I just couldn't get to grips with the calls. So I do know and sympathise what you are going through. How about emailing employers, or volunteer opportunites, would emailing help you out, it would save you picking up that phone, and you can liase on email?


Best Wishes,


Natalie.
 
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natalie you've got a high level of benefit support which is why volunteerimg hasn't effected your benefits, you've mentioned your support with the benefit system
 
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I used to have social anxiety, I kinda still do but it's not that severe.
For me it was since I had a lot of insecurities. I hated places with intense lighting cuz then u can see everything on my skin. I can't get too close to ppl. Whether it's my looks or that ppl r out there to get me or simply the fact that I didn't want others to find out about my weaknesses n see thro me. I worked on my insecurities and gained some confidence. I noticed I'm so used to being alone most of the time n don't socialize much that when I do n there r big crowds it makes me uncomfortable. My whole life style is just wrong.

People aren't scary they're not gonna bite me. It's not like the whole world and everything revolves around me, ppl don't think of me as much as I think they do in my head. Everyone is busy doing their own business and I should too.
Sure there are some who I might not feel so comfortable around like u sense some bad aura around them. But there are good ppl and sometimes it all depends on how you connect with them if u simply smile talk n seem more open n approachable I found myself socializing just fine even just for a while tho I might be nervous n all on the inside.
I also reached a point where I was sick of being by myself wrapped under a shell. I wanted to get involved at least sometimes and not all the time. I just got so comfortable in my own world. I thought it was time to get out of my comfort zone. Now I just don't care what others think of me even if I think I have difficulties talking with others. If I'm not willing to connect with them I'll never find out about them so how can I judge first.

I don't think I'm fit to have a stable job for a long time. Tho I'm studying architecture I probably won't work just in this one field only. Not just cuz of my mental health, but I don't want to end up doing things I don't like. So I'm considering of becoming an artist or something, even if others still won't support my decisions I'll probably stick to them. I think it should be more about me and what I want to do rather than what I'm willing to do for some company.
It is hard when u go out there on ur own or when u start something new. But I hope we all end up happy wherever we are.
 
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then theres the question with me as to whether extreme social anxiety, is the same as schitzoprenia, i've had both diagnoseses running at different times
 
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There are many jobs that allowed you to hide your identity.

Or at least you can ask your friend to act as your manager :D
 
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