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WLC
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Hello, I'm a 19 year old male and I have a few issues I've been wanting to talk about for quite a while.
I'm an extremely jealous person when it comes to girls, I get very frustrated whenever I see a girl that I'm attracted to talking to other men (this is mainly because I'm very shy, I don't seem to be able to do what most men would do normally when flirting or whatever... except when I'm very/(extremely) drunk...) I must clarify that I've never shown this anger publicly as I don't wish to embarrass myself or anyone else, but I do bottle it up, and I've locked myself in toilets a few times and thrown private tantrums (usually coming out with bruised/bleeding fists.) I also cry myself to sleep (probably self-pity) more than I think I should.
I am quite embarrassed by both of these, as I'm known amongst my closest friends (it takes a long time for me to become relaxed with people) as being probably the funniest in the group, as well as being docile and completely non-violent (I'm in no way a competitive or alpha male type). But I can just feel this frustration welling up inside of me, sometimes I find myself hoping that some idiot will pick a fight with me, even if I'll probably get completely beaten up.
I can become quite obsessed with a girl as well, I wouldn't say that my obsessive nature is anywhere near as bad as my jealousy (I've never ever thought about stalking a girl or anything as extreme as that...) but a recent example I have, is that I started talking to a girl on ::insert your favourite social networking site:: and we really got on well, and have a lot of things in common, and she has sent me some moderately flirtatious messages and asked me if I wanted to go on a trip with her (even though we live in countries that are 2-3 hours separated by plane) but I know it was a genuine proposal.
I had to decline, but then I started to think about other men that she may have invited/will meet, other people she may have been sending flirtatious messages to, etc, etc, you know the rest. And now I'm constantly checking my e-mail to see if she's sent me more messages, etc. because I'm scared she does this to lots of guys and may have lost interest in me.
Anyway, this is far too long, but I've had to get this off of my chest as I know this isn't normal behaviour for a 19 year old guy.
I've actually been seeing a girl for the past few weeks (although I'm quite sure she's now avoiding me, I've never tried to kiss her or anything, I'm just too scared. My friends say this is probably why she's not calling me back anymore; she's gotten bored...)
My friends also comment on my posture: raised shoulders and just looking generally nervous when in a social situation.
I think the point I'm trying to make, is that I seriously need to kick this jealousy and obsessive-ness (+ shyness) out, and invite some self-confidence (and normality...) in.
This was far too long, but thanks in advance to anyone who replies.
WLC
I'm an extremely jealous person when it comes to girls, I get very frustrated whenever I see a girl that I'm attracted to talking to other men (this is mainly because I'm very shy, I don't seem to be able to do what most men would do normally when flirting or whatever... except when I'm very/(extremely) drunk...) I must clarify that I've never shown this anger publicly as I don't wish to embarrass myself or anyone else, but I do bottle it up, and I've locked myself in toilets a few times and thrown private tantrums (usually coming out with bruised/bleeding fists.) I also cry myself to sleep (probably self-pity) more than I think I should.
I am quite embarrassed by both of these, as I'm known amongst my closest friends (it takes a long time for me to become relaxed with people) as being probably the funniest in the group, as well as being docile and completely non-violent (I'm in no way a competitive or alpha male type). But I can just feel this frustration welling up inside of me, sometimes I find myself hoping that some idiot will pick a fight with me, even if I'll probably get completely beaten up.
I can become quite obsessed with a girl as well, I wouldn't say that my obsessive nature is anywhere near as bad as my jealousy (I've never ever thought about stalking a girl or anything as extreme as that...) but a recent example I have, is that I started talking to a girl on ::insert your favourite social networking site:: and we really got on well, and have a lot of things in common, and she has sent me some moderately flirtatious messages and asked me if I wanted to go on a trip with her (even though we live in countries that are 2-3 hours separated by plane) but I know it was a genuine proposal.
I had to decline, but then I started to think about other men that she may have invited/will meet, other people she may have been sending flirtatious messages to, etc, etc, you know the rest. And now I'm constantly checking my e-mail to see if she's sent me more messages, etc. because I'm scared she does this to lots of guys and may have lost interest in me.
Anyway, this is far too long, but I've had to get this off of my chest as I know this isn't normal behaviour for a 19 year old guy.
I've actually been seeing a girl for the past few weeks (although I'm quite sure she's now avoiding me, I've never tried to kiss her or anything, I'm just too scared. My friends say this is probably why she's not calling me back anymore; she's gotten bored...)
My friends also comment on my posture: raised shoulders and just looking generally nervous when in a social situation.
I think the point I'm trying to make, is that I seriously need to kick this jealousy and obsessive-ness (+ shyness) out, and invite some self-confidence (and normality...) in.
This was far too long, but thanks in advance to anyone who replies.
WLC