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I've made a decision today

sunflower

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Going to tell my GP and care co-ord tomoz. Will be ok. For once, I won't need my notes.
 
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Well done that a great decision (y) Let us know how it goes.
 
sunflower

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Thanks for your encouragement. Am really sorry, but think I mislead you. My decision was that I want to die because I can't cope living any more. I spoke to my GP, then just had 1hr 30 mins with my care co-ord. Was right to be honest and say how I felt. We explored why, and came up with at least 5 things that are causing me extreme pressure right now. I've been doing well distracting for the past couple of weeks, and she said it's just that my coping mechanisms are exhausted right now. We talked about things I might do to get me through the next week or so. She was lovely. Told me I'm not alone. Really appreciated the time she gave me today, and told her so. She's amazing. xxxx
 
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hugs hunni, :hug:

well done for telling her and letting them help, so glad they listen to u hunni.

sorry not in good place right now, but here for u hun
 
sunflower

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hi babes, really sorry to hear you're not in a good place right now. sorry i've not text you back either. sometimes don't get round to checking phone. is there anything i can do to help? if you wanna talk, but would rather do it privately, please feel free to message me. lots luv xxxx
 
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dont think much can do hunni, down to which is best time now rather than if.

loads a hugs and tc
cad
 
sunflower

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hunni hunni talk to me, pretty please? sounds like you can use some extra support right now. xxxx
 
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Hey sounds like you both need a bit of extra support right now - be kind and good to yourselfs - things do and will change, for the better for you both I hope.

Coping mechanisms are good, but only as good as you feel on the day, sometimes you just have to keep on trying.
Hope you are both going to be o.k - keep sharing

KS
 
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I'm really glad you managed to tell your gp and care coordinator. Post in here anytime you need help with the urges.
 
cadence

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hey babes,here goes since asked me to talk

tried to tell my useless care co, that i can happily talk bout od-ing to which she says thats good lets talk bout it a week on fri!!!!!!!!!
then g having bad time at wk, re applying for jobs, and boss been a cow, bringing it home, kids been harder work again, losing therapist on thurs, and group fin, and all stress with ss and now dla form to fill in again and care co aint gonna support me!

anyway back to u hunni
cad
 
sunflower

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You should talk more!!! I really do want to try and help. Are you in need of seeking medical help? Lots of stressors on you at the moment. I'm not surprised you're struggling. Sounds like you're losing support before you're ready for it. What sort of things are in your care plan, both short and long term? If your care co-ord is busy, how do you feel about phoning the CMHT and asking to speak to someone else on her team? It's really important that there's someone you can go to 24/7, and don't forget your care plan should be written in conjunction with you, based on YOUR needs. If things are really bad, can you ask for an outpatient appt to discuss loss of support etc? Also, is there a MIND near you? They can help with forms etc. Thinking of you hun. xxxx
 
cadence

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first answer not yet, plans for tomoz! care co does care plan then makes me read it, bet she will be out of my life soon, get feeling doesnt want to stick around, not allowed any more support as she sees bpd=attachment so no ppl! she even stopped pathfinders from ss! who would have worked with us. never my needs.

got my last forms so gonna copy them but need psych and care co letters and psych not seen me in months and wil go with whaqt care co says as he is choc t pot, nice one off sick in hosp.

cad
 
sunflower

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Hunni, try think what you're trying to communicate with your plans, and see if there's a safer way of doing so. I strongly suggest you contact the psych and ask for an outpatient's appt because as far as I'm aware, it's the psych that's responsible/decides about your care co-ord and mental health service involvement, and you should be involved/made aware of what's happening at every given stage. I've just read about him being choc teapot. Maybe you could put all your concerns in writing, and what you feel you need, because they have to respond to that. I've also had my GP help me at times to liaise with my care team. They tend to listen to other profs. I feel sad that your care plan doesn't seem to be based around your needs as you see them, in conjunction with your care co-ord. It's meant to be a joint thing that changes as time goes on, with short term goals, long term goals, and crisis management, so everyone knows where they stand. It can include all sorts of things. It's most useful when you've both been involved with it's writing and should mean that someone who doesn't know you, can pick it up and know what's what re: your care and what sort of things you need/find helpful. Don't be fobbed off hun. If you still need care and support and therapy/psychology etc, you still need a care co-ord and sometimes you have to scream and shout to communicate all of this. If I can help in any way, I will. I could even send you a copy via email of what's in my latest care plan (when I get it), as it's pretty comprehensive, and it might help you identify things that might be useful for you to have in yours, which you could then share with your care co-ord or psych. Let me know if you'd like that. Don't give up! xxxx
 
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cadence

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that would be fab hun, do u have my email, i cant remember? if not can pm u it. she decides my goals! and time frames etc, she even says i can go out to places i am unfamilar with if i want, ermmm no i cant!!!!!!!!!!

she is sooo annoying. all she sees is bpd, not the person. not sure what to say or do now, if i talk to gp, i get told off, as should talk to her!

lose lose situation. have pm'ed u hun
 
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