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Its not that easy to just eat rant.

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My dad is worried about my weight. Which I completely understand. But he has went into this mode of where he now feels the need to try and teach me what to do in order to help myself to eat.
It is frustrating the shit out of me.

"What you need to do is have your breakfast. Then have 2 biscuits with every cup of tea you have. Force a sandwich down you for your dinner. Have your tea. Have another sandwich. Then you will be fine. If you dont feel you can eat it.- Just open your mouth, put something in it and then chomp up and down -(this one annoys me the most)"

The talk of that amount of food is off putting in itself. We had a sandwich for breakfast and then he starts talking about dinner. I'm trying to explain that I cant think about dinner yet. I had him take me back home before dinner time because he wanted to have dinner and wouldnt stop talking about food.

I get the need to rebuild an appetite, but breakfast and then lunch/dinner is too much. Maybe breakfast and then something at tea time.

I know he means well but he will not listen when I'm telling him it's not as simple as just shoving something in your gob and then chewing. As simple as that sounds, it's not how it works for me!
 
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I'm not surprised you're frustrated as hell. I just do not get this attitude of someone thinking they know what's best, regardless of how the person reacts to the advice.
 
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Thank you hicks! Its reassuring to know that somebody else would find this frustrating too.
I didnt know if I was overreacting or not.
It's definitely not making me think of food in a positive light
 
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You are not overreacting, I would be as frustrated as you are. People who haven't experienced the same tend to not being able to understand how it is for you.
 
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Yes I guess it is a bit like that, Hicks. That's a great way of putting it.

Thank you soul_deeps. He wont even open his mind to try and understand which makes it even more frustrating.
 
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Do you plan on moving out or will you stay at home for some time?
 
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I moved out a long time ago. We are just pretty close.
Thank the lord really. I'd imagine he would have a spoon down my throat by the end of the day if i was back at home haha
 
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Yea that's very good. I also always was happier when living with my own. It means you can decide how much you talk to eeach other and how much time you spend together :)
 
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I found despite having food restrictive disorder left to my own devices I eat OK if no-one triggers me about what to or what to not eat i manage ok
 
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I found despite having food restrictive disorder left to my own devices I eat OK if no-one triggers me about what to or what to not eat i manage ok
Me too, mostly.
I dont know if it's related to my moods or not but it seems that all he talks about at the minute is food. He has a thing against larger people and shares this with me, even though the doctors have recently told him hes just over the line to be obese. Maybe that's why hes talking about it so much. I dont know. I'm going to distance myself a bit regardless.
 
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Talk to him,Say what your favourite food is and talk about how great the dinner was?I think he is probably thinking why .. hope this helps you x
 
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Talk to him,Say what your favourite food is and talk about how great the dinner was?I think he is probably thinking why .. hope this helps you x
Thankfully he settled down. Hes overly worried about me at the minute and I find how he expresses it frustrating.
I'm trying to be mindful of the fact that he probably finds me as equally as frustrating when I dont just shove something in my mouth and chew.
 
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I totally get that. Force feeding yourself is just objectively not pleasant. It’d be like him being told to eat a sandwich when he feels full. That would feel gross.

my dad has told me almost the same thing about that when I didn’t eat due to anxiety. He was like go make yourself eat a sandwich. And just thinking about doing that was like super gross. Do smoothies or soup or something that is at least not as daunting you know? That’s what I do.
 
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I totally get that. Force feeding yourself is just objectively not pleasant. It’d be like him being told to eat a sandwich when he feels full. That would feel gross.

my dad has told me almost the same thing about that when I didn’t eat due to anxiety. He was like go make yourself eat a sandwich. And just thinking about doing that was like super gross. Do smoothies or soup or something that is at least not as daunting you know? That’s what I do.
That's it. The thought of more food when full just isnt appealing, and that is exactly how I feel when I've got no appetite. Just full.

My appetite has picked up a bit again, which has got my dad off my back at least.
Yup smoothies and shakes can be helpful during the times of no appetite.
 
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