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It's never going to end is it

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CoffeeLove

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Something was said yesterday in the village shop which really shocked me and made me so distressed I could scarcely get myself back to the house through the haze of tears which I couldn't stop from falling in floods and tides.

I was in the queue waiting to buy my milk for the day and these two ladies in front of me were talking and one of them said to the other that her friend's daughter has been suffering with BPD for over 30 years and that she's been told she will never get better because there is no 'cure' for BPD, the personality is damaged so badly that our behaviour becomes so erratic and abnormal we actually get classed as being ill, but we're not ill if there is no way of curing BPD, surely this means we're terminally ill, it's only a matter of time until we take our own lives, right.

I have been holding so tight to being able to get complex needs therapy to make myself well enough for me to be able to see my younger daughter again and it hit me so hard I actually lost my footing and fell over int he shop, hurt my left arm and my hips but what was worse was the tears, they just erupted from me in a way I have never cried before, tears were actually flooding from my eyes, not the odd big tears every few seconds kind of crying, this was streaming tears.

I'm never going to get well enough to see my younger daughter again am I, my life is finished, I'm alone, I've lost my children and I'll never be with anyone ever again, this gut churning ache I have deep inside of me is never going to end is it, I can't be cured or fixed, I'm broken forever, I'm a broken toy.

I just don't know how to process this
 
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earthbound_misfit

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one of them said to the other that her friend's daughter has been suffering with BPD for over 30 years and that she's been told she will never get better because there is no 'cure' for BPD, the personality is damaged so badly that our behaviour becomes so erratic and abnormal we actually get classed as being ill, but we're not ill if there is no way of curing BPD ...
What a pile of steaming horse poop!
You know how some people just love to gossip, and to hell with the facts? People repeating scaremongering stories and 'facts' that are simply not true? Here is a prize example. It may take time to undo the effects of trauma, but it's impossible to cure wilful ignorance!

No wonder you reacted so strongly - it must have been devastating to hear that stuff. Good job it's rubbish!
I'm so sorry you were exposed to such hurtful ignorance xx
 
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Its not true, you will get better, you will get to a place where your condition is under control and you feel ok.
Dont listen to sh*t other people spout - they havent a clue! I feel sorry for her daugher- with an attitude like that she has no hope of a well life!
Stay strong my friend
Hugs
Fox
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Well, I do believe it can go better.
They tend to say that you often diagnosed when you are a teen and when you have passed your 30's you are often "cured".

However, I was diagnosed at the age of 20 and I am now 33. They claim I have borderline light. But I claim I have it all the same. I do not have so much problems as before, though. I do not have any drinking problems anymore and I am not sleeping with new partners every week any longer. I am also not manipulative any more. I was very manipulative in my 20s. I am more chill, so to say. I believe in myself a bit more than before.

But I have deep scars from my childhood. Really, really deep.
I know why I feel the way I do today (thanks to years after years after years of therapy) but my inner security and stability is ruined, damaged.
I do not believe in myself that much.
I have been told from birth until I was ~18 that I am for no use in this world.

But I do believe you can get better.
You will always have your memories and perhaps be a bit more sensitive than others, but absolutely, you can work with your issues and get rid of them. Thats my opinion.
 
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Well, I do believe it can go better.
They tend to say that you often diagnosed when you are a teen and when you have passed your 30's you are often "cured".

However, I was diagnosed at the age of 20 and I am now 33. They claim I have borderline light. But I claim I have it all the same. I do not have so much problems as before, though. I do not have any drinking problems anymore and I am not sleeping with new partners every week any longer. I am also not manipulative any more. I was very manipulative in my 20s. I am more chill, so to say. I believe in myself a bit more than before.

But I have deep scars from my childhood. Really, really deep.
I know why I feel the way I do today (thanks to years after years after years of therapy) but my inner security and stability is ruined, damaged.
I do not believe in myself that much.
I have been told from birth until I was ~18 that I am for no use in this world.

But I do believe you can get better.
You will always have your memories and perhaps be a bit more sensitive than others, but absolutely, you can work with your issues and get rid of them. Thats my opinion.

Borderline Light!!! well that's a New one, even on me!

Im BPD LITE! yaeahhhh!
 
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CoffeeLove

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Well, I do believe it can go better.
They tend to say that you often diagnosed when you are a teen and when you have passed your 30's you are often "cured".

However, I was diagnosed at the age of 20 and I am now 33. They claim I have borderline light. But I claim I have it all the same. I do not have so much problems as before, though. I do not have any drinking problems anymore and I am not sleeping with new partners every week any longer. I am also not manipulative any more. I was very manipulative in my 20s. I am more chill, so to say. I believe in myself a bit more than before.

But I have deep scars from my childhood. Really, really deep.
I know why I feel the way I do today (thanks to years after years after years of therapy) but my inner security and stability is ruined, damaged.
I do not believe in myself that much.
I have been told from birth until I was ~18 that I am for no use in this world.

But I do believe you can get better.
You will always have your memories and perhaps be a bit more sensitive than others, but absolutely, you can work with your issues and get rid of them. Thats my opinion.
Thank you for your kindness and support, I was first diagnosed when I was almost 8 years old, I'm 47 now and I am a very very long way from being 'cured', in many ways I am even more unwell now than I was all that time ago, and now I am enduring the most painful experience I have ever encountered, having my children taken away from me, as a child I was kidnapped and tortured off and on for 3 days and nights, so trust me when I say I know a little something about suffering and pain, nothing hurt as much as this is hurting, nothing.
 
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Sending you my love
 
BorderlineDownunder

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I sometimes wonder if They win (by which I mean my vile family) would they even pay for the funeral?

Probably not.

Put the Fat Slag in a Paupers grave where she belongs.
 
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