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the constant been woken up at night by people banging on the door, i don't answer, when i have theres nobody there or i hear a women laugh and when i told the suppport worker when i had one he said not to answer as they could throw a brick through the window

neighbour won't alllow cctv and when i contacted sally army housing they said there are strict rules about cctv and communal spaces, think the sally army is the same as the guardian, it's ok for the rich but it's morally wrong for the poor

then my family aren't there for me, and services are designed around there been a carer, even if there were services i could use they wouldn't meet my needs, day centres are basically places carers can leave someone for a break.the gp assumes needy people have carers with them, and if they don't and can handle the 2hr wait they're not needy

then theres all the problems of living independently on benefits, with the fact i'm living independently held against me for benefits, increasingly thinking of moving into more supportive housing, if i'm strugleing now what when i have serious physical issues? i completed painting a while ago so it seems a pity
 
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I am so sorry life is such a struggle for you Rambo. Do you have the option for alternative living arrangements?
 
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i don't know about the option, as you know i drink and do i want to lock horns with some care manager over it, there is a place i've heard off whether i could move, a move would be a battle now without support, i'm thinking as i've finished decorating to wait to the neighbour moves and see if the sally army houses the neighbour from hell. then i'll really need a bolt hole

but i hear stories about those homes theyre not the perfect solution
 
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Rambo. We might disagree on things but I just wanted you to know that you are a real good fella. At the end of the day we are all in the same boat. Respect to you my fellow warrior.
 
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funilly enough the supported housing project i'm thinking about i can still remember the guy ringing my bell and asking me to sign the petition, objecting when it was built. i've heard someone whose employed to get people into more supportive housing can get me into it

i've also heard the organisation behind the supported housing has come into money what happens when that runs out?
 
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Rambo. We might disagree on things but I just wanted you to know that you are a real good fella. At the end of the day we are all in the same boat. Respect to you my fellow warrior.
i might envy you the cpn and family support, but i know my situation isn't your doing, you haven't got it east either
 
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MH can be made much more severe I think if you don’t have good MH support or family and friends to help you when your feeling vulnerable. My family don’t like anything to do with MH although they do accept my anxiety but not the schitzoaffective part. I think that is because it scares them. But my friends are worth there weight in gold. One in particular is always there for me.
 
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and unless your in crisis or have a crisis services don't care and it's the same with family, it's not said but services expect family to care, my fathers dead mothers senile in a home my sister in brum visits her and is now caring for my brother whose had heart surgery and had a stroke

guess family can't care and services are designed round family carers

and i've wound them up pointing out their hypocracy and how though they claim care they're just another branch of the criminal justice system
 
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and incidentally i don't like been patronised by people who get more care than me saying i'm iller than them
 
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I have some of the same anxieties you have Rambo. I live in supported housing and I have the same fear they’re going to move another unstable person into the spare room, the other two persons who moved in there were terrible, one set fire to two staff members cars within two weeks of moving in.

I have to admit though the supported living company has stuck by me though through some bad times with my illness, I have a secure tenancy and have friends, when I lived on my own unsupported I was very lonely and drank all the time, here am supported.

I think you should look into supported housing, it might be a benefit to you. I live in a shared house but many supported living places have individual properties.
 
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but in that hostel they pushed independent living and stabilised on drugs like brainwashing regularly for a year, the worlds moved on since then but a lot of the conditioning still holds

should have asked if i was so well why was i in that hostel, someone on this web site said he knows someone whose in a hostel whose been told he's in recovery, it's the in thing now
 
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i'm trying to look on the bright side, glass half full etc, i am doing well a lot of schitzos live with family those without family support tend to be in institutions, most with flats have some form of support

the pip they say a light touch for those approaching pension age and i've just done the work capability questionairre so i should be alright for a bit

the guy who runs the homeless place said "it may not feel like it but your doing well", only have to walk down the street to see homeless people