issues about depression,anger,anxiety,low self esteem etc...

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A lot of people go through depression due to various reasons...let's discuss the above mentionned issues...O.K..I do see a lot of self conflict or conflicts in relationships,family matters,self loathing,lack of confidence in most of the postings..therefore i wanna start a discussion here about the why?why not?coping mechanisms,solutions etc...feel free to enter this thread and say what you have to say.....anger for me is often an emotional feeling I mostly cannot get directly under control..I have been angry at people,in an abusive relationship towards an ex partner,angry at myself etc,anger showed me more self insight because I looked for solutions,I am against venting anger since I think it intensifies things,I bottled up and thats not an answer either,if we look at the reasons why anger feelings start we often come to a conflict within our self,I bet anger is doublefaced..can tears release anger?I doubt it?I easily cry and I often think that it releases a stress on me,does anger relief creates optimism?I think anger can be very negative or destructive if a solution is not found and turns into a self rage,I can be irritated if my pc does not start of works,in a traffic jam etc..I noticed often in myself an anger if I turn into my 20% mood as I call it ..then I blurt out or lash out with words which is not a perfect issue either..we all get angry sometimes,I get angry at the world and the things which go wrong and feel helpless against
I often think life is pointless since we cannot change or do anything which brings a real change and often I don't care because it seems like an endless circle
 
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sometimes in my life i felt useless,worthless,prone to stress situations..
i bet all of us go through periods in our life circle that we are full of doubt about ourself,others,the world..stress is a main factor for bodily and mental problems..how do we handle it?fight it?anger in a way can be difficult to control,especially if we bottle it up..that bubble will burts one fine day..i do like honesty..people who beat around the bush usually will pay a price for it later in life..perfection does not exist..that's why some of us feel useless..and turn themselves away from the world they are forced to live in..I did,by the way..and i am glad to say that leading a loners life..gave me insight..not only in myself,but also towards the world,other people..and in that aspect it reduced my stress factors..i believe anger is very often seen as being a frustration,an upset,a worry,a problem so how do we cope with anger?what do we do with it?how do we see ourself in that situation?how does it affect our way of thinking?how do we react to it?can we simply ignore angry feelings and act like...Oh...one ear in..the other one out?me personally i can't..I brood on it,act upon it,think on it?suppose person X tells me am an idiot,an asshole..if i feel offended and i react to it,then the attacker in question will release a counter attack..if my answer is NOT strong enough..he/she will use my weakness to create a personal victory..do you see how trolls and bullies prey their victims..they provoke?and wait for a counter attack..we should maybe learn to control answering an angry attack by avoiding it,ignoring it..if the attacker feels that we do not respond to it,then finally they will try somewhere else...i was a victim of an attack in a big forum...few people commented on one of my postings..they did not agree with my opinions,others followed..escalation of words..they formed a clique mentality..and said they were gonna hunt me down in a posse(ahah)i reacted my own way..I took the whole thing as a joke and made them feel more ridicilous then they already were..finally things got settled...we smoked a peace pipe...and one of my she attackers...became a good forum friend for years..that's long ago..more then 10 years now..i believe a good word if we are able to phrase it in a correct way?can be a big boost up sometimes...we call it moral support..
 
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let me tell you all about stress...it often leads to anxiety,anger,being restless..
in my opinion stress is a factor which we all go through in life..I had my fair share of it really..there is good stress and bad stress..so?what causes stress?what are the factors,symptoms?how do we deal with the good stress which keeps us going in life?how and why do we lose it?and how do we deal with distress?which can give us emotional unrest,anxiety,unhealty life?when i was a coalminer i did go through daily stress for years..because the job was dangerous,unhealthy..and i never knew what i had to do until i got to the nightshift reporting chamber..it was different,sometimes an easy job and sometimes very stressful..one day i witnessed an accident in front of my eyes..i was down for days after that..we had to change heavy machinery on the system where the coal comes from the head gallery(where they cut the coal directly with a huge scraping machine)a mechanic had to drill a rusty bolt away which got stuck and difficult to remove..the whole heavy system was held up with hydraulic tools=don't know the English name..at the certain moment when that dude was flat down drilling in a very confined narrow space situation..the holding stuff gave way and he got stuck with his head..big panic and stress..we managed to free him,put him on the belt and warned the security services to come and pick him up..he was bleeding out of his ears...so a direct brain injury..we all knew we lost him..he was taken to clinic and died few hours later..I used to know him very well..28 years old,a wife and 2 kids..a joker,always positive..his name was Romain..stress for me is a factor which worries me..i love life as i live it..and i see so many people in stressful mode..why?since this topic is a very wide field..I do hope to hear a lot of answers from you all..i have been fighting stress for years..it can be helpfull to know HOW we deal?or can deal with stress..yeah..solitary distraction or finding ways to distract?to me distraction means finding a way NOT to get bored...I might booze,listen to music,get onto my computer,lookup something in google,send a message or talk to someone via messenger..as long as i can draw the line that all these things are not putting more pressure on me and really control my life minute to minute..how do we cope to eliminate unwanted feelings,emotions out of our daily system?let's discuss..i often think that we need distraction because we feel anxious,frustrated,emotional about things out of our past which really troubled us...my past was not very positive when i was younger,even later on i was drawn into an abusive relationship...how did i cope?I am a dude who goes for life..I don't give up...never...i did 2 things==music was one of them..I am a music freak..it uplifts my spirits on daily basis..secondly..I was always a traveller..I have seen part of this world,talked to people,but in a way i still stayed a loner..even while travelling..nowadays i go to gigs=raves,techno,dubstep,
psy trance,flowerpower gigs..it's an outlet..to distract..i started a travel blog in 2006 in a forum where i wrote down all what happened to me starting from 1970 up till today..writing down something helps to trigger certain emotions..it improved my self worth and mental stability,but still the mind is weak and often i slipped back in thoughts i do not want to be there..what i noticed when i got upset is the fact that i always was ruminating over negative events in my life..I know for lots of folks it will create voices,uncertain emotions...unwanted stuff..i think brooding over an issue affects our ways of thinking and inflicts depression..i guess often my self esteem went down the drain and i could not directly cope..some folks go into therapy..i never did..I started investigating and analysing myself=the why's?wherefor??the how's?i was looking for answers within myself,not necessarrily on internet like google,wiki or forum discussions.. i think a way to distract is to value our own talents..we ALL got them..i used to be a front driver for motorbike trips,mostly 1 day trips to the Ardennes..a hilly regio of Belgium..I drove groups up to 25 bikes behind me...it gave me the sense and feeling i was doing a positive thing..I was the leader...people saw me as something valuable..it boosted up my self confidence..nowadays i only drive shopping trips..I stopped intensive motorcycle driving..but oh well..speeding at 90miles an hour overtaking faster cars..it gives me still a kick...I know i am risking a traffic penalty..but that kick overtakes my thoughts and wins every time..i used to have 2 cats..i talked to them..they gave me distraction(ahah)they are both gone,but nowadays i got a stray cat which i call Ella...she comes into my living room occasionally..she knows she will get food or milk...luvly cat she is.....i often get confused about myself,the world,my connections in life..I would suggest to folks who feel like that...simply download the virus that's in your head, to another location....replace it with a positive issue..you will notice that it helps..
 
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don't we all get angry sometimes???and how do we deal with our anger??
the reason why i get angry at myself or others=i hate injustice and as a matter of fact i feel powerless to fight it,some people find themself in a depression and the result is anger,even suicidal thinking
other people get angry in order to gain control over certain situations in their life,it can develop into a superiority complex because we see everybody else as a feeling of getting at us to manipulate,dominate or bully us?if anger becomes a negative issue then we have to try to eliminate that negativity because it can lead to pessimism or even depression..
let me tell you how i deal with my anger==in the first place i feel the symptoms within myself
==distrust,insecurity etc...do i get angry because i cannot control a situation in my life?anger aimed at myself for being powerless in a given situation may intermingle with anger at someone elses anger as a way to achieve the very power i do lack,if i recognize someone's anger i try to find a reason for their anger and i try to discuss it with them without causing harm,because that would even increase their anger feelings...answering anger with my own anger would only have very negative effects in my opinion,is it not?anger got a reason,a trigger issue which makes us angry in the first place and very often we cannot deal with it,maybe a therapist knows the answer?i often have been at daggers with my gf because we had different points of view on philosophy or psychological issues about ourselves...but i am a fellow who can admit...oh...i was wrong,sorry it hurted your feelings and an apology is welcome then..we should all learn to express our anger into words,not easy,but it is do-able..fear is often a deeper way of feeling or getting angry...the one who fears is in turmoil with her/his own mind and way of thinking..anger is an emotion just like pain/suffering/joy or pleasure...so we have to find solutions...this is my 2 cents on anger..maybe you agree or disagree...i am looking forward to read your answers...
 
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i reckon we all get issues about anger...lately i found myself very pensive for some reason...
i do not feel lonely,neither alone,and maybe my label focuses on loner/hedonism
loneliness is an emotion,but being alone is a choice..it's more a way of looking at things..
if i consider to be in control of my own emotions,then that's a virtue indeed,if i am not it becomes a burden,a vice,a turmoil...i talked to people in my life who cannot deal with being alone,seek interaction with the wrong people etc...and turn back into loneliness,repressed anger issues,a personal disgust about how this world treats their ego,stopping a negative emotion is only possible if you go 100% for it,either yourself or with the help of someone else for that matter..bottom line is that a lot of people do not ask themselves why they feel lonely or alone...it's a personal choice..why we wanna be on our own?if we don't want to be lonely or alone?then it stays an issue to take into consideration and explore within our mind...a complicated world or mindset only occurs if we make it difficult or endanger it ourselves,if i can enter a given situation which troubles me and i look at it with a calm and clear mind,then i consider that a solution to a better life,contentment and honest feelings..i feel O.K as a loner...I consider it as my personal freedom...and i lived like this for many years..and probably will do so until i leave for the eternal hunting fields..talking about anger,depression or anxiety is not as simple as we think..if everyone could just be listening and not judge it negatively..then life would be so much better..if anyone thinks she/he is obese and her/his world is often concentrated on her/himself,how others see them,the self blame,the self pity..we all should learn to accept anger,depression etc..as it is for the person concerned,doing something about it is another thing...if people show respect and understanding to one another,then they will get respect back....
 
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in how far is being schizoaffective or PSTD related to being schizophrenic?
i believe a lot of anger,anxiety,low self esteem can be related to these disorders..
i know someone with schizotypal disorder=PSTD..and she told me there is no cure?
can anyone tell me something about that issue?i believe in a cure for everything:)