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Fairy Lucretia

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i think being alone all the time is making my mental health much worse
before she died mummy was with me 24/7 but now i am completely alone apart from when my aunty visits me twice a week
she has recently had cancer and has heart problems and diabetes and is 88 so im sad to say i do not see her being alive much longer

im literally alone all of the time and can see this being the case for the rest of my life
i can't socialise because i have social phobia ,i have a few friends but only online

the days are difficult to get through i spend most of my time asleep
i feel so depressed and alone :cry:
 
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I understand how you feel and am sad that you also have a life like me. I have my nan that i see over the weekend usually, and during the week due to agoraphobia, i see nobody. I do go to particular places, safe places, like the small supermarket down the road and this makes me feel alive and in the community, but the anonymity is important for me.

Without your mum, i can see how you are isolated and alone. It is a lifesaver that you have your aunty and i can understand why you are scared about a time when you will not have her, which will happen one day sadly, to us both. I often think what will i do when she is not here, i will have nobody, but i do have some faith that when one person goes another one comes along. I hope that is true. Life does not stay the same, and people come and go. I am sure that something good will happen to tide you over when your aunty is no longer here. Someone else will come along. There are many elderly people on their own now, but luckily there are more and more organisations that are fighting isolation so hopefully there will be organisations for us too, for younger people. Some people with mental health issues really are left to rot at the moment and that must change. I cannot imagine they will leave us all like this for much longer.

If we are left alone forever, there will always be the internet and we will survive. We will find a way through it.
 
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When you're crippled by social anxiety, making friends online is much safer than face to face - you always have the chance to back out for a few minutes or a few days.

It's not trivial of course. You sometimes have the same worries over saying the wrong thing or how the other people will think of you. And it takes time.

But it's possible to have close and lasting friendships that are built over the web.
 
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Binca thanks so much for your reply ,im sorry you are isolated to ,i am really glad you have your nan i hope you have her around for a long time to come xx
you never need be alone as long as you use this forum because you can always message me ,i hope we can become friends xx :hug:
 
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Binca thanks so much for your reply ,im sorry you are isolated to ,i am really glad you have your nan i hope you have her around for a long time to come xx
you never need be alone as long as you use this forum because you can always message me ,i hope we can become friends xx :hug:
That is the kindest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you. I get so scared of making friends now which sounds so pathetic but i will try to stick around so that i get to know people and they get to know me.
 
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That is the kindest thing anyone has said to me in a long time, thank you. I get so scared of making friends now which sounds so pathetic but i will try to stick around so that i get to know people and they get to know me.
i hope you do stick around xx i am going to send you a friend request if that is okay xx i can already tell you are a special person xx
 
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I have accepted :) thank you. I hope that i continue to come across as nice because occasionally i am not and that is when i lose people, bit by bit. It's so sad. I apologise in advance if i write anything here that is disappointing to you or anyone else. I get upset sometimes and i don't cope with stress easily, or criticism.

I agree that it is a good idea for you to be with people on the forum and i use them too for that reason. I have been on two before, just for a month or two. I wish also that i could meet up with a group of friend for tea or go out for a drink in the evening, but it isn't happening and i cannot cope with that, like you can't i think.

What am i going to do with you? My nan says this affectionately. We are what we are, we can only do what we can do. No point trying to squeeze into a round hole or is it a square hole? I do believe that when i need something, it will come up. I really hope so!
 

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