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Yahtzee

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I've suffered with social anxiety and depression since October of 2009, with 9 breakdowns over the years and things seem to just be getting worse. I use to have people who I could talk to, but now they seem to keep trying to label me and tell me who I am which just makes my anxiety worse, I already feel as if I have lost myself and their insistence on who I should be just pushes me further from that person, it's gotten to the point I can't bring myself to perform any real task in front of my own family simply because of how much I feel they judge me. I've tried to make friends in the past but they always feel as if they're just pitying me, so I'm either so alone that the silence becomes terrifying in itself or forcing myself to interact and being equally as scared of the people faking compassion towards me. I just don't know what to do next, I'm isolated and trapped with a decision with no positive outcome.

Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this.

Yahtzee
 
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wannabegooroo

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if you can use your isolation to rest/prepare yourself, if you rely too heavily on others it can be a source of tremendous stress. My tip to you is accept we are all alone, we are all physically separate. If you are dependent on having a "friend" to be more accepting of yourself, make friends with yourself, befriend your inner dialogue or inner voice. Your isolation can be one of solitude or loneliness. You have a choice. Maybe your body is saying you need to be alone for awhile and figure stuff out, relationships can be complicated even for seemingly the most healthy specimen. Making a friend won't save you, you can save yourself.
 
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djooj

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Welcome to the forum. Hope it helps being here,
There's good folk here who relate. Sorry you're feeling so crap.
 
Purple Chaos

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Oh Yahtzee, sorry to hear of your struggles and that you feel so alone. Unfortunately many mental health illnesses and disorders go hand in hand with isolation and/or feelings of loneliness.

Are you receiving any help or treatment for your depression or anxiety?

By the way, welcome to the forum. I hope that being part of it will help you to feel less alone.
 
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Yahtzee

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I was seeing a psychiatrist for a while however I tended to become suicidal after seeing them haven't in a little over a month
 
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That's not good. I would imagine that's putting you off seeing anyone again for a while. Do you think you'd be able to cope with a talking therapy, such as CBT? I suppose it's difficult at times to know what will make you feel better and what makes things worse.
 
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Yahtzee

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I've tried a few therapists over last year but haven't been able to find the right one yet, since my last breakdown in October I've just been trying to get my feet once again and then once I feel more stable look for another therapist to try.
 
Purple Chaos

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That sounds like a good plan. I hope you're feeling stronger and more stable soon, particularly at home. Perhaps talk about how you're feeling with your family. They might think that they're helping and may be totally unaware that things have become worse.

Take care.
 
GreenEmerald

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Hi Yahtzee....there are social anxiety courses run by psychiatric hospitals. A small group of sufferers turn up for a group therapy type course, which tackles their social anxiety. You should try it out. Just google it or ask your psychiatrist.

ALso heres a lik that u may like......Support Groups - Social Anxiety Forum
 
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jimindigo

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May Help

Don't know if it will help,but I started to improve my anxiety when
I found out it's origin was my parents,and I had TRANSFERRED it
onto outside world. So,in effect,I was 'making it up' in present,as
both my parents are deceased,and I sure as hell was not allowing
them to make me anxious from the grave!
Deepest Respect,
jimindigo
 
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Elle-X

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Hi Yahtzee, sorry you're having such a rough time at the moment. You're very wise to find stability before you find another therapist, hope things get better for you soon.
 
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