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Fairy Lucretia

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sometimes I think I am not suited to romantic love x

is it always beautiful at the start? do the rainbows and butterflies slowly ebb away? xx:unsure:
 
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From what I’ve read (because I’m very sensitive as well and I don’t even know how to describe my own experience) it is VERY normal for excited butterfly love to become comfy familiar love ☺
 
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sometimes I think I am not suited to romantic love x

is it always beautiful at the start? do the rainbows and butterflies slowly ebb away? xx:unsure:
I thought I was romantic. I thought I was loving. I thought I was intimate. I thought I was kind. I then had a few glimpses of mindfulness and realised my wife was right, I’m none of the above and I’m mostly nasty.
I’m not feeling too good about it but all I can do is try to get better because I know I am a nice guy underneath this shit.
 
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once you get too comfortable both of your 'true selves' show and that's when your love is tested, which is why it's best to wait until marriage after at least 3 years
 
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no relationship, mental health issues or not will always be like a fairytale, sorry to break it to you, but im not about sugar coating everything because it sounds better
 
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I thought I was romantic. I thought I was loving. I thought I was intimate. I thought I was kind. I then had a few glimpses of mindfulness and realised my wife was right, I’m none of the above and I’m mostly nasty.
I’m not feeling too good about it but all I can do is try to get better because I know I am a nice guy underneath this shit.
It takes two people to make or break a marriage. I know I’m awful to my bf sometimes too but it’s not out of the blue. We really know how to push each other’s buttons lol. Don’t take stuff out of context and assume you’re horrible. In order to get to a more peaceful state of mind you have to at least have your own back. I only got angrier and paradoxically clingier when I started thinking I was an awful person.
 
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I've never been in a relationship but I already know that I'm too sensitive. I don't think I'd be able to handle it.

I mostly daydream about romance, but since my depression has gotten worse I can't anymore. It's all impossible for me anyway.
 
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no relationship, mental health issues or not will always be like a fairytale, sorry to break it to you, but im not about sugar coating everything because it sounds better
I think most of the fairytale have struggles and problems to overcome just like a real relationship and I believe in true love (now) xxx
 
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I think most of the fairytale have struggles and problems to overcome just like a real relationship and I believe in true love (now) xxx
ive never seen a fairy tale that resembles real life much, especially with the whole happily ever after bs, life is a struggle until you die, nothing can change that
 
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True but I've seen and know people how are very much in love 30 or 40 or 50 years together.... And true love is about weathering the storm together surely? Xx
 
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True but I've seen and know people how are very much in love 30 or 40 or 50 years together.... And true love is about weathering the storm together surely? Xx
yes until one will be left a widow and have to suffer more than they imagine, that's the ending to a fairytale most people endure
 
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But the years together make life beautiful and unique, the experience they share will never have been done or will ever be done again the same way with the same.feelings ... It is the pure magic of this life and those two people will have shared that magic with eachother..... Each moment is made more precious because of it and the fragile nature of existence xx
 
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But the years together make life beautiful and unique, the experience they share will never have been done or will ever be done again the same way with the same.feelings ... It is the pure magic of this life and those two people will have shared that magic with eachother..... Each moment is made more precious because of it and the fragile nature of existence xx
oh wow that is so beautiful x :hug:
 
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I dated plenty of young women that gagged a little when romanced. You know you're in danger of being placed in the friend zone when they say, "Oh, that's so sweet of you.....gag."
 
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I dated plenty of young women that gagged a little when romanced. You know you're in danger of being placed in the friend zone when they say, "Oh, that's so sweet of you.....gag."
Haha. Keep looking till someone appreciates you!
 
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