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Is working hard enough?

Lucky Tia

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Whatever it is in life, almost everyone tries hard. But why is it that only a few make it?

Life isn't fair is it.
I know everyone has their own time to shine. But why do some people go backwards while some go forward in their life if both are trying hard?

The ones who fall maybe didn't work hard 'enough'. Maybe they were lacking something in some way. So if they failed, do they deserve it? Is it their own fault?
Or was it destiny/luck/opportunities in the favour of the ones who made it?

Maybe it's really all about "work smart" rather than "work hard".

What I know is that some things happen in life that's out of our control and there's no avoiding it.. But does it really happen because it was fate that was written for us -maybe like some sort of a test given by God-, or is it our own doing that we deserve to go backwards and suffer n get depressed cuz we didn't try hard enough?
 
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Mayflower7

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Hi,
I worked to hard and burned myself out, wished I had paced myself more back then.
The stress I think caused my mental and physical health problems.
Take care
 
Tired Daisy

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I'm burnt out on life "trying to make it" its not my thing.

I once had the mind set of working and getting a woman etc etc I didn't care much for being rich I just wanted what everyone else had and to have a fulfilling life.

I soon learned that I was different and that I was basically an outcast to put it in to few words. I'm a loser and there is no escaping that "fact"

I'm not attractive... woman turn there noses up at the sight of me and I'm grateful that I have a nice place and I've got my benefits.

I don't fit into the outside world and I can't stand people and there silly opinions... sure I'd like some friends and I'm not a horrible person, people just annoy me these days.

I worked hard but got nowhere and learned from it and gave up. I'll take my chances on a scratch card and I will win 23 million pounds in 2021.
 
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R_Sxo

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Hi Lucky Tia,

It's a good question, and one that's becoming more popular in the world of work. To most people, working "harder" simply you are working for longer hours, and there's a perception that working longer hours means you are more dedicated and down-to-earth. But working "smarter" is something being looked at as a way firms can reduce costs, improve employee satisfaction, and address the poor productivity of the UK workforce.

In terms of "making it", the idea of working harder is that those perceptions of dedication and commitment open doors can open opportunities to you. So working harder gives you more of a chance of gaining those opportunities and "making it". But this doesn't happen for everyone - if everyone could "make it", then it would simply remove the meaning of reaching that level (if that makes sense - "making it" in itself isn't an easy concept to explain, since it differs and varies so much!)x

Much love <3
 
Drooo

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Something that always gets overlooked - largely because we're humans and we wrongly think goodness and kindness will win the day - is cutting corners, manipulation, lying and slyness; in short, doing anything to gain an edge or a leg up.

Through my life I've known people that have lied about grades they've got at school when applying for jobs, which have helped to land them in good jobs; ones that have done the same but used it to get a good job and then move onto to other jobs of a similar ilk quickly so that a trail back to those false grades wouldn't ever be looked into; ones that have lied about their work history; ones that have manufactured relationships with management to get themselves in their good books; ones that have played staff member off against each other; ones that have lied consistently in their job roles, and so on.

A lot of people will do anything to get ahead. Those of us that consider ourselves hardworking and honest are the ones that often get shit on by those other types. A touch more ruthlessness or single-mindedness is perhaps required if you really want to go places, particularly within cliquey companies. Overall 'goodness' just doesn't cut it because there will always be someone that will see that as an opportunity for exploitation. I wish that wasn't true, but it is.
 
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Unfortunately, I am happily stuck with volunteering, and I am always positive, and very much a hard working character.


Unfortunately, and annoyingly, I don't think, I'll ever be able to return to paid work, not according to my benefits department, anyhow. So there I happily have it, I am stuck, with the happy joys of volunteering.

Happily to post, for the following, right, tomorrow, I'm off, to get to my admin assistant voluntary work role.
Just for the morning, mind.

Regards All.
 
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