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Is this me being nuerotic through my bipolar or do I have a right to feel like this?

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mickeymoo

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Is this me being nuerotic through my bipolar or do I have a right to feel like this?

My 4 year old daughter has been invited to a party. I have just been told by her mum that there is no way I can come as there is not enough room for me! (For my daughters party (which this girl came to)I paid entry to a farm park for all children and there parents because I think that is what should be expected with such young children) Personally, I think this is very rude. The main point though is that I am expected to leave my 4 year old child withough any direct supervision.

I have also been told that there is no where to drop her off so she must hop out the car, cross the road by herself(!) as there is no where to turn the car around and make her way into a party for 2 hours without anybody being directly responsible. Seriously!!! What if she left the village hall andwandered out into the road, nobody could say this isn't possible with a 4 year old.

Please tell me I'm not being neurotic! And also, do you think this lady was rude saying this. She also said If I came everybody would have to stand with there arms to their side not moving because there is no room for me (I am not a big person!)

She has also said to my friend that had a son she didn't want to invite him because it wasn't for boys but she felt she ought to! Seriously, you don't say that to someone!

Now I know parties can be expensive but I know for a fact this village hall is only £10 to hire. Before you all pounce on me saying she might not be able to afford it, the said children are at an £8000 a year pre prep and there are only 10 in the class.

I am just worried I am overeacting because I know I often do due to moods. Am I right to be naffed off by this though?
 
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Allyke

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From what I've read, I'd say she was out of line. At the very least, what she said was incredibly tactless. I wouldn't worry about overeacting and I'm sorry she was so rude to you xx
 
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Hi Mickey,

Bearing in mind that her words may not mean what she said, it was still damn rude. I would be thinking twice about letting my 4 yo go on her own.
 
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mickeymoo

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Thank you. The problem is just that I'm very sensitive to what I perceive to be little digs at me (like she obviously dislikes me enough to go out of her way to make sure I am clear I am not welcome.) I always over react but I just felt so sure this was wrong. I know most people would just let it go but this has been bothering me for 2 days now and it makes me feel so patheitic that its bothering me. Why can't I just shake things off?
 
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NO WAY!! This is so out of order!! I'd really think twice about letting my daughter go to a party with all this previous drama! And it's not you- it sounds like this other mum has a very major screw loose. I couldn't believe what I was reading just now - 4 year olds crossing the road on their own? (any road in my opinion, what's her problem that you can't assist your daughter the door?), people would have to stand with their arms by their side? If one person makes that much difference my opinion is it's not going to be a great party in the first place? And she's probably breeching some rule somewhere of overcrowding if that's the case!! This woman sounds ridiculous. I'm well aware of the years to come where I will have to make an effort with the parents of whoever my children decide to befriend, but this is beyond belief!

Just to say you definitely have the right way of thinking with this - I think up to at least the age of 8, the option should always include parents turning up at the parties. I know I would take it very personally too, but I don't think you should feel neurotic for doing so - what could be more personal to us than our own child's safety? And quite rightly so. And if this is how she is organised the whole affair then I wonder what supervision will be in place once your daughter's there? If they have to put their arms by their sides with the addition of one extra person (be it a midget or a giant!) then how on earth are they gonna have the room and space to oversee safety at the whole thing?!

Pah, sorry, I really do feel a little bit mad about this for you tho - please trust your instincts with this one - I don't think illness even comes into question with your reasoning, it just seems like logic. That woman needs her head checking!

Good luck with this xx
 
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i wouldnt let my daughter go to this party given how she has to get there. this is rediculous. my daughter is nearly 4 and wouldnt have a clue about road safety.

im so annoyed on your behalf. grrrrrr
 
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I think she is being totally out of order. I agree with other posts, for that age group u have to plan on parents being there and if you alone will cause such overcrowding then surely your daughter won't be having the best time. Personally I would be torn between refusing to let my daughter (3 and 1/2) go or me just going anyway to check it out, if was ok and well supervised I might go for a walk but arrive back b4 the end of the party.
Good luck whatever u decide x x x
 
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