- Oct 2, 2020
- Surrey, Uk
Hi, pumpkinc. I wouldn't dismiss the diagnosis of bipolar, particularly because you say in your first post that 'Doctors have asked in the past if he thinks he has bipolar'. I assume those doctors aren't psychiatrists, but they are medically trained, which none of us are. And I think that if more than one GP has put this idea to him tentatively, there's a chance they are seeing things in his behaviour that we have no way of knowing and which even close friends and family can miss.Thanks for your insights. Sounds like we were right to dismiss bipolar as a diagnosis. My husband is very good at dissembling. He's like a different person with "outsiders" than he is with insiders, so he definitely has control over how he interacts with the outside world. It's just that with me, I guess he feels safe, so his defenses are down.
My feeling is that he needs a psychiatric assessment. It may turn out that he has major depression rather than bipolar disorder, but some of the symptoms you describe could indeed be dysphoric mania - as others have explained, you don't need to feel 'high' in order to experience mania, or even hypomania (a less extreme high). Indeed, I was hospitalised almost a decade ago for mania, but I wasn't in the least bit euphoric; I had been through a traumatic relationship and was angry and agitated, but I did have a lot of excess energy - that's one thing your husband seems to lack in his moods.
After many years of having this illness, many of us become 'expert patients' through experience; that doesn't mean we can diagnose on here, and it seems to me that there is some danger of that happening. I really don't know if your husband has bipolar disorder - but a psychiatrist probably will.
With all good wishes, Ginger Kitten.