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mypurple

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My son is 16 years old, he has been told he has psychosis, depression, paranoia, anxiety, hallucinations, delusions, intrusive negative thoughts, panic attacks and a few others. Not a firm diagnosis, that's not the issue but his psychiatrist will only talk to my son or me at appointment times only even when I don't know where to turn. Today he was sent home from school as his teacher felt he was in a negative place and suffering anxiety that she was unable to calm him with. I got him home had a cuddle and chat it was like he was 10 again, i sent him into his room with his relaxation cd and we had lunch. He was still stressed and not very settled i was worried he may harm himself as this is the usual pattern so told him if he agreed to call his psychiatrist as he won't talk to me. He did not talk to him either, his secretary reminded my son he has an appointment next week. My question is what am I meant to do?
 
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mellonheadgirl

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Call the shrink, see if you can get him in sooner. If not, wait a week until his appointment. You can talk to the shrink and tell him what's going on but the shrink can't tell you anything. That's how i understand it.
 
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I am surprised that there is so little help for your son. It sounds like his psychiatrist is not the best in the world. I am also surprised that his psychiatrist won't talk to you about your son's condition, as your son is still a minor. It seems to me that if you knew more about what was going on, you might have more understanding of your son's condition and get some support for yourself as well. I don't know where you live, so don't know what kinds of MH services are available. I guess if it comes down to it, you could call 911 if your son's behaviour is out of control.
 
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mellonheadgirl

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Ay 16 minors have the right to dr / patient confidentiality which is why the shrink wont talk to her.
 
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mypurple

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He had an adult psychiatrist in an adult ward he was great with us both we agreed boundaries. But this child psychologist is so strict. As far as I know when someone is as I'll as my son they are entitled to a representative, which we agreed was me. This man just will not talk to anyone unless he has arranged a meeting. I go in with Sean every 3 visits Sean goes in his self the other 2. This psychiatrist said my son can not think safely for himself at the moment and that he needs my input. Yet only on a 3 weekly thing. My problem is. Am told by everyone to tell the Dr when he is going to hurt himself yet he is always unavailable. That is why I am asking what should I be doing?
 
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Is it the psychologist or the psychiatrist you are trying to contact? If it's the child psychologist I can understand him only wanting contact on pre-arranged appointments, that seems to be how they work and they aren't doctors. But if you are wanting to contact the psychiatrist (the doctor) as you've been told to do I think if you can't contact him and you need to then you need your GP to intervene or else attend A+E if all else fails. Just my thoughts, I'm not an expert. x
 
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He is a psychiatrist but he did not want to take my son on due to some sort of funding fight within the nhs. I think I will have to contact the gp or a and e as I can't do his job as well as my own. I feel he is neglecting my son, he says how bad it all is and yet I am the only one picking up the pieces. I was told when my son changed to the child psychiatrist he would get a con, ot, psychologist and the rest of this psychiatrists team but 8 weeks later and he said no just him.
 
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finally got help for my son his paranoia, anxiety, negative thoughts have been getting worse over the past few days and no one would help him. So I got a gp appointment and to the gp's disbelief the psychiatrist and camhs team would not help the gp either. They said give him diazapam or admit him. I had explained how I was trying to stop him self harming or needing admitted to hospital so he offer the diazapam and said if I need help before 6 pm tonight just to call the gp himself, he could not believe how they would nit help us or indeed him. So if my son gets to a point I can't help him I can try the diazapam and if all else fail I will have to take him to hospital. So although there is no magical cure out there thank god for gp's of course this is a short term solution. My son is begging me to find him another psychiatrist and now I am starting to see why. surely they have a duty of care for patients when things get to much for them. Even if it is a chat to say there is not much they can do, that would have helped my son believe me that he is worth helping.
 
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