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Is relationship paranoia part of BPD? Is this me being paranoid?

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But you have to understand that for "normal" people it is very hard to imagine what you are going through...
 
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I just dunno, I can't cope with this anymore. Feel like he hates me.
 
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I just dunno, I can't cope with this anymore. Feel like he hates me.
I feel you, but isolating yourself and not talking will probably only worsen things. I am no therapist of course, but maybe you can seek out one who can advise you what to do.

I can only talk from experience that I am very glad that I told my loved ones although I still struggle each day.
 
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I’m just scared to bring it up though. I don’t wanna look stupid. Is it better to mention it in person or send a message tho.
 
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I’m just scared to bring it up though. I don’t wanna look stupid. Is it better to mention it in person or send a message tho.
It is very scary and I was ashamed after I told them. i still wonder if it was a good thing i told them... but I think it is. I have even gone as far as accusing people and almost beating someone up over it.... :((( It was so strong and it has to do with my history with people
You have to make your own decision tho and see how it turns out, and maybe telll him if there's anything he can do if he's supportive...
 
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It is very scary and I was ashamed after I told them. i still wonder if it was a good thing i told them... but I think it is. I have even gone as far as accusing people and almost beating someone up over it.... :((( It was so strong and it has to do with my history with people
You have to make your own decision tho and see how it turns out, and maybe telll him if there's anything he can do if he's supportive...
thank you, I feel less alone now.
 
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Damn just realised I put early this year in the post completely forgetting it’s 2021 not 2020 anymore. Time moves so fast its almost scary haha. Actually makes me anxious.
 
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So earlier this year I managed to work myself up into a right state thinking my boyfriend was talking to one of my friends online because they were coming online at the same time. This was someone who he would never be interested in but my head wouldn’t let it go. I ended up deleting that friend, and it was probably the best decision I could make (we didn’t talk anymore anyway)

Then of course a month back I start noticing it happen with another friend, this time a close one I can’t just delete. Again no reason they would talk. Then my friend goes and adds my boyfriend on Facebook so of course I’m basically dissociating at this point over it. Instantly message my friend like “Urm what’s going on?” She’s said she adds all her friends boyfriends on Facebook and she added him when the got together and he only just accepted. Sent me a screenshot of the notification and said she has no interest in him and would never do that to me. Haven’t heard from her since but then again she has never spoken to me much. I asked my boyfriend and he said she added him 2 days prior and he seemed to find it odd. So I just kinda let it go.

Now I’m worrying again because me and my boyfriend usually send memes back and forth all day on Facebook. All of a sudden he has just stopped doing this. So of course my stupid head is like “well what if he has a new account to talk to her on and he’s always logged into that now”. So that’s were I’m at, I’m becoming increasingly stressed over this and can’t even tell of this is my stupid head making stuff up anymore someone help.

I really want to ask him why he isn’t using it anymore to talk to me but I don’t want to come across clingy or babyish. I feel guilty for having these thoughts as well because I really do love him.
Honestly it was like reading about myself reading this post, im the same with my Girlfriend. I can see something and jump to the wrong conclusion all the time. We have nearly broken up over it. There has been things in my relationship in the past that fuels my paranoia but she also understands how i am. it is hard and relationships are a struggle x
 
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Honestly it was like reading about myself reading this post, im the same with my Girlfriend. I can see something and jump to the wrong conclusion all the time. We have nearly broken up over it. There has been things in my relationship in the past that fuels my paranoia but she also understands how i am. it is hard and relationships are a struggle x
Yeah they can be a struggle. So glad I'm not the only one that struggles with this. Feel crazy at time aha.
 
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No your not the only one, i also feel that way like wow i need to call my doctor because my train of thought isnt in the right reality x
 
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Yeah I just feel like I don’t live in the same reality as everyone else. That and my magical thinking OCD adding to it.
 
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