- May 8, 2015
I've just started to read up on passive aggression because I have an inquisitive mind and am at the beginning of a relationship that gave me a few red flags that I pop psych diagnosed as "passive aggressive". The research and books on passive aggression seem to cast a very large umbrella over many behaviors, and the reactions are incredibly extreme, mostly by exes of "PA"s. It certainly seems pretty awful. Like you can't deal with these people, they are terrible, abusive, and absolutely unable to discuss the situation. They will always make you feel unworthy. It's like they are despicable and unmanageable. There is no real way to find a compassionate solution with them. I also read that it is no longer classified as a disorder- is it because it's too wide of a net of symptoms? But it also seems like a lot of people could have this judging from the "symptoms". I mean, if someone exhibits a little of two or three of the symptoms, does that mean they are hopeless? Is it really common? Is it hard to diagnose? What's the deal? Thank you.