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Is it the cause or a coping strategy?

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Thank you Yakuza. Can I ask how long it is since you stopped? xx
 
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The alcoholism?

Yes it'll be 3 years next week :clap:
 
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Good for you Yakuza! You will find a new freedom and a new happiness. Well done! (y) :hug:
 
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Thank you for your support :hug:

I tried to stop many times before but this time it was with medication and counselling and I have never relapsed once.

You're quite right,it does change the way you approach life :)
 
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Youve both done really well. Im not much of a drinker now but do still drink occasionally. But if its anything like giving up the fags (which i did in 1990) then i think your very brave cos i found that really hard. (y)
 
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Youve both done really well. Im not much of a drinker now but do still drink occasionally. But if its anything like giving up the fags (which i did in 1990) then i think your very brave cos i found that really hard. (y)
Congratulations for giving up :)

I was a binge drinker according to the doctors,I had'nt realised that there was a difference but never the less I was slowly killing myself.

It's hard at first (same with smoking I'd guess) but the long term benefit is what should inspire anyone to give up an addiction :)
 
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coping strategy

for me i couldn't deal with mental health problems i didn't understand and i couldn't tell anyone so i drank.
 
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I think its the number of factors that excacerbate mental health problems is really interestiiftng... For me the biggest factor has been sleep.... being a shif worker has totally screwed my once good sleeping patterns, I have always had 'depressive' streak but this one factor caused me to crash completly. Well done to u guys for givng up on the alcohol and drugs you must have to work really hard. I am trying to give up SH and poor eating habits ar the moment and findin it all so overwhelming.
 
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You may find it easier to work out why - are your eating habits just poor or destructive? If they're "just" poor try dealing with them first and then looking at self harm. I can't tackle more than one thing at a time and it does get overwhelming.
 
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Yeah am trying to do the one thing at a time though the Mental health services seem to think the SH has to come first when it is the eating that causes me the most stress
 
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Then be firm and if it's what causes you the most stress then it has to be dealt with first. The SH is often bigger in other peoples heads. PM me if you want to and I'll tell you how I cope as I have big issues with both.
 
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In my case I've always enjoyed a drink, when the anxiety started I drank more to help ease the symptoms but soon learnt it was only temporary relief. Lately though I have been drinking more as I have really slipped back down the ladder. Also because I am so bored in the house in the evening. I recognize this problem can become destructive and aim to stop. I don't crave drink it seems though once I start around 9 pm I seem to think hey this feels good lets have some more. Im only on beer but still thats not an excuse, time to take a long hard look at myself I reckon.
That sounds familliar except I'm on wine
 
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I've never taken anything drugs wise that was not prescribed
I've never smoked
I do drink but I can't drink all that much 1/2 bottle of wine, 3 or 4 tins/pints max of low strength beer, any more and I get really ill.

So where do I come in on this thread?
some things I know I do is think too much about what others may or may not be thinking - paranoid? - knock myself down - low self esteem - could go on with other things but it doesn't pinpoint something or anything that I can blame!

I know when I am strong I can call myself names and 'snap out of it' but when I am not 'it' overtakes me.
Writing this down at this moment makes me a good candidate for CBT, but when I've been there it was always when I was strong, never at a low.
My birth family has always considered me as very much a loner, now married with a family of my own they (my own family) know different, I long to be with others, never on my own, with them I can be strong without them I fold!
It feels worst when I am sitting alone in the office at work, like I am right now, sometimes even with some of my collegues being near it doesn't feel much different as I don't feel as I 'belong'.
It's very difficult for me to explain, but I do have a need to be around those I love all the time.

Michael
 
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I think I'm drinking now out of sheer and utter boredom. I don't think 4 or less tins of lager a night is bad compared with what I hear some people get through. I'm not happy about it the fact that Im drinking nearly every night. At present I need to sort my head out with work and the problems there. Actually I feel totally mixed up.
 
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I used to use regularly at fourteen because of peer pressure and also due to the strain of not feeling I could talk to anyone about my BPD. When I finally did get myself into the system I left those people and managed to get clean (except for smoking, but I guess you cant have everything)

That lasted 3 years, but since my last episode started I've been drinking and using everynight. It annoys me to hell that I've ended up back there but blocking everything out is a bigger priority. Vicious circle, as I feel more dissapointed in myself.
 
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