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Is it social anxiety or something else?

Topcat

Topcat

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Does this sound like a social anxiety thing?
When I attempt to socialise, even in "safe" spaces like at home with people I've known a long time, I feel like I'm under a microscope being analysed. It's such an uncomfortable feeling and makes me massively self conscious and weird about chatting. This is getting worse, I didn't used to be like it with everyone. I'm ok at work though where I see a bunch of people, although I'm only chatting while I work, and I can choose who to have conversations with. Usually my old ladies.
 
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Could well be. I’m ok chatting on a one tone but if there’s a group i just clam up even if i know them well. It even happens at family parties, I’m usually the one in the kitchen washing glasses up. Are you ok with routine things like shopping or getting on buses cos that is a big part of social anxiety.
 
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Yeah I’m fine with routine things with short interactions, chit chat, it’s a bit like at work. But with longer get togethers I feel really self conscious then think I’m acting weird - which probably makes me act weird. Making eye contact has always been a bit of an issue and that’s getting worse too.
I have to get up and do something too at family gatherings, I feel worn out by all the social stuff, then feel weird as well. I’m also conscious that everything I’m saying is boring/stupid and my voice is stupid, and I probably look stupid etc
 
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Hey,
I can relate perfectly. What bothers me the most is tjat it doesn't allow one to be himself.
While you are speakong you are thinking about your next word, movement. You don't enjoy conversations because they are like a test with someone grading you when they are not so you seem different, weird.
I would advise to start try to be in really chill situations like on a couch with a close friend and just say everything that comes to your mind before the mind gets invaded byt hese thoughts of what I am doing wrong.
I have never worked on it and now jt has worsened, I say a load of crap without any sense because I dont think about it , I know its weird but at least I dknt ask myself 10 000 questions.
 
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