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Is it ok to be ok?

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angelflower

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I have had a rocky week, but had a nice time with family yesterday and today. My question is........ 'is it ok to be ok?'

I have gone from feeling suicidal, to self-harming, to having a better time. Once I've been out and enjoyed myself, I feel like I have to self-harm etc to level things out. That it's not ok to be allowed those positive feelings.

Does anyone experience this?
 
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DiegoArgentina92

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Hmmm... ive had some kind of thing like this, i think.

To me it has been like: "i dont want to feel ok and do things, i just want to stay doing anything, feeling bad,, dont want to feel like everyting is fine and feel ok and go around like feeling good, i just want to stay doing not much, feeling like things arent fine".

At least to me this is caused for... well, first caused of course because ive not been ok, and even doing bit good i dont want to have the "rush" of the "feel good" feeling, im not for that, i need quiet, i need slow and low movement, and think about things.

Feeling ok its like turn the back to the problems, and think nothing happened, but you know something went wrong, and you cannot pretend everything its ok, i think this is why that "its not ok to feel fine" shows up.

Of course is better feel ok and good, but if you need to feel bad its ok too, the thing is to know how to deal with this for the best of you.

Dont know this is consisten with what you said.
 
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I've never felt I need to level things out but I do get home from a nice day feeling happy and gradually remember i am not happy. Once i remember, i feel better. I am used to feeling sad and scared and anything different makes me anxious. Maybe i am scared to have fun.

If you have to remind yourself why you are not happy, is there another way you can without self harm? Images are helpful to me so when i am depressed i do a search and find all of the art and poems about depression. It helps to see how i feel so i know it is there.
 
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R_Sxo

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Hi angelflower,

I'm sorry to hear that you don't feel it's okay to be happy. My question is, what is wrong with letting it be as it is? You deserve happiness, whether you believe it or not, because you're a wonderful human being and worth so much more than you give yourself credit for. Let the happy times be - you deserve to experience them when they come around! :)

Much love <3
 
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JLM1980

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I have definitely had similar feelings. It's almost like I have feelings of guilt when I am doing good and then it is like a self-sabotage by then getting negative. It feels like I am on an ocean in the midst of a storm being tossed to and from or in a washing machine on the rinse cycle being spun round and round. There are ups and downs regularly. But I am Bipolar and moodiness goes with the territory I guess. I have found though that there are things that help me stay more positive. Reading my Bible, singing worship music, watching/listening to sermons, reading books like "Battlefield of the Mind" by Joyce Meyer or "Uninvited" by Lysa Terkeurst. Also, going on walks or bike rides or hikes helps me.
 
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JLC70

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When I have good days I try to enjoy them. But I can get sad because I want every day to be like that. Not perfect days, but just a general feeling of contentment and well being. Like yesterday, even though I was alone almost all day, and broke the lawnmower again, I was ok. I stay up late because I want it to last, and who knows what I'll wake up too in the morning.
 
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