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Is it normal to feel physically ill after a breakup?

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Lizardqueen

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My boyfriend has left me because of my bpd episodes and I feel so unwell like I could just die. I haven't eaten in the two weeks leading up to this, have palpitations and suicidal thoughts, headaches, feel sick to my stomach and flu like. It feels like I'm dying. How can I stop this pain? I can't handle it anymore. :(
 
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Hi Lizardqueen. I really feel for you. Breakups are one of the hardest things we have to go thru, but what your feeling is completely normal. You’ve gone thru a trauma and now your grieving for a lost love. The only cure for this is time . I know thats a bit cliche and probably not what you want to hear. But there’s no quick solution. Do you have family and friends around you to give you support or do you have a MH team that you could talk to about this. Please keep posting on here. The majority of members will have at sometime in their lives been thru something similar and could maybe advise you better than i can:hug:
 
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Hi Lizardqueen. I really feel for you. Breakups are one of the hardest things we have to go thru, but what your feeling is completely normal. You’ve gone thru a trauma and now your grieving for a lost love. The only cure for this is time . I know thats a bit cliche and probably not what you want to hear. But there’s no quick solution. Do you have family and friends around you to give you support or do you have a MH team that you could talk to about this. Please keep posting on here. The majority of members will have at sometime in their lives been thru something similar and could maybe advise you better than i can:hug:
Thanks Daffy, I just wish I could stop how physically sick I feel. He's completely discarded me out the blue like I'm nothing, I feel awful about myself and when people ignore me it really makes me feel like I just want to die. So hard as I'm having suicidal thoughts and the GP doesn't seem to do anything except up my antidepressants dosage and this doesn't work either.
 
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Did he not give you a clue that he was going to end it, cos thats just cruel. How long had you been together?
 
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He went to a stag holiday and came back acting differently which made me feel really insecure, then we had a fight and he just ended it, saying I don't do what he 'tells me' and he can't handle my emotions. I'm not sure if he's trying to punish me by doing this because he knows my triggers.
 
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He went to a stag holiday and came back acting differently which made me feel really insecure, then we had a fight and he just ended it, saying I don't do what he 'tells me' and he can't handle my emotions. I'm not sure if he's trying to punish me by doing this because he knows my triggers.
I’ve just had the same thing happen and feel exactly the same as you. Unfortunately as has been mentioned the feelings will only improve in time. To me, anyone that doesn’t want to be with you because they find your BPD ‘difficult’ to deal with can go fuck themselves.
 
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If it's any comfort, you want someone in your life who can and will support you. Through good and bad times.
 
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If it's any comfort, you want someone in your life who can and will support you. Through good and bad times.
Thanks, I know what you mean. Just feels like he's changed into a different person when he seemed to care so much before. I feel worthless.
 
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Thanks, I know what you mean. Just feels like he's changed into a different person when he seemed to care so much before. I feel worthless.
You're not worthless. He didn't have the depth of feeling that you thought. It wouldn't have been the right thing to continue such a relationship. Although he could definitely have handled it better. Don't feel bad, you're a good person and will find someone better suited to you. As Daffy said, in time you will get over this. Talk to people around you, if you can.
 
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I’ve just had the same thing happen and feel exactly the same as you. Unfortunately as has been mentioned the feelings will only improve in time. To me, anyone that doesn’t want to be with you because they find your BPD ‘difficult’ to deal with can go fuck themselves.
LizardQueen Apologies for my reply, I was in the middle of a bad episode of BPD without realising. Sorry for the language I used. 🤗
 
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Hi LizardQueen,

You've been given sound advice here. Break-ups weaken our immune system and the associated pains and physical symptoms are very real.

Have linked you to an article that you might find interesting:


Sending you so much love. xxx
 
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My boyfriend has left me because of my bpd episodes and I feel so unwell like I could just die. I haven't eaten in the two weeks leading up to this, have palpitations and suicidal thoughts, headaches, feel sick to my stomach and flu like. It feels like I'm dying. How can I stop this pain? I can't handle it anymore. :(
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I am going through something similar. My boyfriend left me and I’ve stopped eating, starting having panic attacks and struggle to even leave the house. But we both need to stay strong! Make sure you have people supporting you! X
 
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