I feel like people stare at me funny and move away from me when I'm near them (like at a store). This is well before covid so please don't say it's covid. This has been happening to me for years. Some people online suggested that I may be ugly. But I don't think I look that bad. I may not be handsome but I don't have any deformities or anything like that. Could it just be anxiety? I always say I'll ask the person why they're staring at me like that, but I always chicken out.
Hello uniongard, it is upsetting to feel you’re being stared at, or laughed about, the latter I have felt myself on occasions. I think there are many factors to this. Most of the time people aren’t looking at you, they’re looking at something past you, but you are in their eye line. I’ve done it before, been staring at something, almost daydreaming, then suddenly realise it seems I’m staring at someone. Sometimes people also see something about a person that attracts their attention. It’s not always negative, they may see something they like, something you’re wearing, a style etc. I remember as a youngster seeing a group of people, and I just liked their fashion, was too young to ever copy them, but stared because I thought they looked good. Most people are so preoccupied they don’t notice.
Having people move away I think is just a reaction to protecting personal space. I think today we are more guarded on who we let near us.
I would be quite cautious asking someone why they are staring, I think in the main they probably weren’t, and may be very shocked and possibly react badly.
I know I’m going on a bit, and I’m not an expert, but I hope it helps you.
One more thing, it is cruel and unnecessary to suggest you may be ugly. No, when we feel low we search for negatives about ourselves, but we are all unique, and even the most stunning have natural flaws. Have you thought, if some people are staring, it may be because they like what they see.
