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Is it ever worth stopping? Is it even possible?

shrew

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It is worth stopping and it is possible. I've only been reading about peoples experiences for a short time but there are those (surely on here as well) that have stopped. There might be the odd relapse but I think that is to be expected sometimes especially if you try to deal with things yourself. It is worth stopping - nobody really wants to do it.

What makes you self harm? Only say if you want to :)
 
Foxjo

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Hi Julia
Shew is right, it is worth stopping and it is possible.

For ME personally>
its like stopping smoking- people have relapses but it doesnt mean they are never gonna give up (it took me 4 or 5 serious attempts to stop smoking!).
stopping sh > it takes a combination of things (from my experience):
* Wanting to stop, admitting you have a problem and wanting to make it stop.
*Being in the right frame of mind to stop- we self harm for numerous reasons, one is because we are emotionally distressed. So this side of us needs to be addressed, with support/ talking therapies/ meds etc.
* Hard work - it takes hard work to distract ourselves when we feel the urge to sh. make a plan- when i want to self harm i will.....
(i.e phone a friend, have a bath, clean the kitchen, draw a picture etc). it takes practice to distract yourself from sh.

for me - me and my husband had a key phrase, when i felt distressed or upset and wanted to self harm i would say to him "They are here" and he would know to keep a closer eye on me, sleep in my room with me, hide my medication so i wasnt tempted. all of these things helped take away the temptation, i still wanted to sh but the opportunity was taken away from me. does that make sense.
while the opportunity is taken away from me i am also havin therapy so working on my emotional side. trying to heal my emotional pain will help take away the sh need.

its not easy, i have had relapses but with all this advice and support i am doing much better. i am in recovery.
Private message me if you need support.
Sending Hugs
Fox
 
shrew

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Fuck what everyone else thinks about you. You've got talent and you're different and that is one of the most precious things - it's just finding people to appreciate it. If it helps you and it makes you feel happy then that is all that matters. Different people are always the more interesting ones, so you'll attract more like-minded people. Why do you want to fit in anyway? When I was at university I never went to the student union or did normal student things like getting drunk every night and wasting my student loan. I used to go out on my own to see gigs and ended up talking to ex-miners, musicians in bands and a black man with a peroxide blonde beatles haircut that played the drums with dustbins round the city.

Good luck for tonight :)
 
Foxjo

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Hi Julia, shrew is right, doesnt matter what others think about your pictures, if that helps you express how you feel then keep doing it!
Your not wierd and your not a failure. thats just your depression talking, it makes you think that- doesnt mean its true!
your family are just scared because they dont understand why you would do that to yourself.
thats all
they cant help it.
please keep talking on here, to people that do understand and who are here to listen.
Sorry about the time difference in the reply- im in the uk.
when talking about sh, please try not to mention specifically how you sh as it can trigger other members
but please keep in touch
Hugs
Fox
 
Foxjo

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Hi Julia
chat anytime im online, no problem.
If the green dot is next to my name- im online.
here to listen x
 
shrew

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yeah, I'll chat too. No problem with time differences
 
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