• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Is it common for people with an ASD to misunderstand things?

A

AquaGuy

Member
Joined
Aug 31, 2018
Messages
9
So, let me clarify that question.
I have never been diagnosed with any ASD at all, but most commonly (according to the DSM-V) share, and have done since first starting school, share symptoms with high functioning autism and Asperger’s.

Now, disregarding the fact that I might not have it, I have spoken with people with autism and I have similar struggles as they do, and one thing that is constantly getting to me is my ability to misunderstand things and people not understanding me, causing them to be pissed off with me for saying things without meaning to offend them in anyway.

I will sense that someone is pissed of with me (from years of practise), without really knowing for sure because I still struggle to read some people, and when I behave like nothing is wrong to the person pissed off with me they get more pissed with me for not understanding and not knowing what I’ve done.

But I don’t mean to do that. It’s frustrating because even when they explain to me what I’ve done wrong, which doesn’t happen often, I don’t often understand why that is wrong. I had that problem a lot with teachers in primary school (I got a bit better during high school as I learned a bit more).
I’m struggling with it now because I’ve had an argument with my best mate for doing something that I apparently did wrong but am not entirely sure what. I have an idea, and it probably is correct, but he was fine after the incident for a while and suddenly changed again so I don’t know whether I did or said something else misinterpreted or I was misreading him and he was trying to pretend like nothing was wrong, expecting me to realise. He does understand that I take a while to understand things socially sometimes, but he’s been fine with it for over a decade but I’ve apparently gone worse or at the least not gone any better and doesn’t know what to do...

Thanks. Peace.
 
A

AntipsychoticREFUGEE

Well-known member
Joined
Sep 17, 2018
Messages
107
Location
London, Westmister
Common for everyone I think. Like the teen conversation; Where you are? Now? No, yesterday! But I've been thinking seriously that misunderstanding. Occasionally I've got very bad synaesthesia on, everything is mixed, and I'm not sure is that part of the problem like; previous work I asked college that if something odd happens when you give meds for the patient, does it go away if you double the dosage. F++++++g idiot DID! So, was I comedian accidentally or did he deliberately misrender my message? Considering he's yankee-accent, couldn't be the language barrier.
 
T

Trekster33

Well-known member
Joined
Jun 15, 2019
Messages
134
Location
South West UK
Not knowing if people are annoyed at you because of difficulties reading tone of voice, body language, facial expressions or that you've caught them at a bad moment is a sign of autism.

Asperger's was removed when the dsm-5 criterion was created. I am Asperger's under Gilberg and Gilberg diagnostic criterion but not according to one person's recent assessment. I am fighting this to try and get this 'decision' overturned.

Frequent fall outs with people is an autistic characteristic. Also having routines which make sense to you but not others. Doing things the same way over and over again, not knowing how your voice, words, body language, facial expressions etc seem to others is also a sign.

I know many autistics who feel identifying as autistic is enough for them. They aren't trying to get any other help from other sources outside of relatives, family, friends, so they can appear 'normal' to the outside world.

There's others who need help in some situations rather than others and those who need help 24/7.
 
Per Ardua Ad Astra

Per Ardua Ad Astra

Well-known member
Joined
Apr 15, 2014
Messages
9,061
Location
North of England, UK
Yes. It is. And other people will often use it against you, and to their advantage as well. And that's just those who present as 'friends', and in some cases, publicly-funded 'professionals' :)
 
F

firemonkee57

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 23, 2009
Messages
8,218
My report said -
You do sometimes get confused when you are trying to follow a conversation or you misunderstand what other people are saying
 
sadpunchingbag

sadpunchingbag

Well-known member
Joined
May 29, 2019
Messages
1,406
Location
London
take things literal which is how i think you should be if you dont mean it in the literal sense word it differently i would not say if you autistic you misunderstand things its the person who cant articulate exactly what they want you to do without confusing you by saying counter intuitive bullshit sorry i rambled a bit ps you are not the problem dude people are just shit at explaining things
 
S

Spoons

Member
Joined
Oct 8, 2019
Messages
6
Location
Dorset
I get this a lot and my friends always seem to get annoyed at me for misunderstanding or taking things too literally and being confused and I don’t get how to make them understand that it’s not my fault without making a big deal about the fact that I’m autistic because I don’t want to be seen as “difficult” but misunderstandings is probably my biggest struggle and I wish I could give advice on how to avoid it but I’m still trying to work that bit out myself
 
Top