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Is BPD really a disorder?

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I see the mistakes in the way I have handled relationships in the past and even currently. But those are truthfully just reactions to an apathetic world. Society is constantly trying to convince me that my kind of love is toxic but I think that is an oversimplification if not blatantly wrong. Shouldn't everyone care this much? Is putting yourself first always really more so important rather than putting the person you love first? I am wrong to get angry when I am disregarded by the person I would never disregard?

What makes the complacency of regular relationships better than the passionate and uncompromising love I give?
 
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Is there something in between?
 
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Is there something in between?
I dont know if there is truly anything viable in between. Because of the instant gratification and attention provided by social media and instant access people have become intensely self centered and relationships have become very fragile. If you do not give your utmost respect and attention to a relationship it will deteriorate. At least in my experience.
 
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I learned a long time ago you can't make someone want to be with you. I also learned that one person isn't worth all that pain. They just aren't.
 
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I learned a long time ago you can't make someone want to be with you. I also learned that one person isn't worth all that pain. They just aren't.
I get that but what if they are for you? What if someone wants you but use your love against you?
 
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I get that but what if they are for you? What if someone wants you but use your love against you?
That's still not healthy. I had an ex I thought was for me. He was so funny, he was so cute and talked about me behind my back. Said awful things to other people and my friends about me. I left him. He was so unhealthy for me. He didn't really like me, if he had he wouldn't have said mean things behind my back. Tell me you want to be with me and knife me in the back.
 
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