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Is anyone else single and feels their destined to be single forever more.

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Medusalinks

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I’m back again with yet another post,posted quite a lot today. Mind is doing overtime reflecting on all my regrets and this big mess known as my life.
I’m 44yrs and still single, never married. Not had a boyfriend in god knows how long. Starting to think I’m destined to be single forever.☹ Though it’s been that long I don’t think I’d be able to handle a relationship now.
Anybody else have these issues? As I feel like a total freak and the only single woman on the planet sometimes 🥺 now I’m 44 and lost my bloom and the little looks I had, I really feel I’ve no chance😕
Sorry for rant can’t stop feeling sorry for myself all day.
 
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I'm single forever too.

I have severe anxiety and I have a phobia of relationships or commitment ever since my PTSD.
 
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iWILLOBTAINMENTALHEALTH3

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Hey. Single is better trust me. No commitment. No submission or dominance. No being someones sex object and punching bag. No legalities. No children to worry about. No financial strain. No one trying to off you for life insurance. I know that example is extreme but it happens. No divorce. No fears and tears. No drama. No $hit! Singleness is freedom. :peace:
 
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iWILLOBTAINMENTALHEALTH3

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If you want some go get some. You don't need to be in a relationship for that. Just use protection! :eek2:
 
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I never had a relationship with someone. I have trouble with talking to others because of my anxiety and it's also hard for me to trust people. But I think I'm slowly working on that because I would like to change my life. Still, it's confusing because one moment I think I want something and the next I get nervous and start to panic. And then there's how I feel about myself with my personality and appearance...

I hope you feel better soon. I'm sorry. I wish I could give you some advice. Wishing the best for you. :hug:
 
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I'm single forever too.

I have severe anxiety and I have a phobia of relationships or commitment ever since my PTSD.
I’ve always been shy and reserved but since I started getting depression and anxiety it makes it harder to bond with people or socialise;which you need to be able to do for staring or maintaining a relationship. Harder as I get older
 
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iWILLOBTAINMENTALHEALTH3

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It’s not about physical it’s about emotional intimacy for me. Not that easy for me to just get🧐
I hate emotions most of the time. I'm too emotional. :mad:
 
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I never had a relationship with someone. I have trouble with talking to others because of my anxiety and it's also hard for me to trust people. But I think I'm slowly working on that because I would like to change my life. Still, it's confusing because one moment I think I want something and the next I get nervous and start to panic. And then there's how I feel about myself with my personality and appearance...

I hope you feel better soon. I'm sorry. I wish I could give you some advice. Wishing the best for you. :hug:
Yes. Trust is a major obstacle I’ve been burnt a few times in the past.
 
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It’s not about physical it’s about emotional intimacy for me. Not that easy for me to just get🧐
Sure it is. I am a bloke who puts mental intamacy and connection above most any deformaties, education, class or culture. Ok most blokes can be pretty horrible but I am pretty sure I am not alone.
 
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they say you have to love being single
before you can have a good relationship
so that you are each bringing a full life to the relationship

:hug5: 🎼:goodluck:🌅:flowers:
 
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Medusalinks

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they say you have to love being single
before you can have a good relationship
so that you are each bringing a full life to the relationship

:hug5: 🎼:goodluck:🌅:flowers:
Well I’m really in the shit then😟😟☹🥺 do not love being single. I can cope independent but do not love being subunit for I want to.
 
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they say you have to love being single
before you can have a good relationship
so that you are each bringing a full life to the relationship

:hug5: 🎼:goodluck:🌅:flowers:
They also say you have to love yourself, but how many of us on here can say they do?

My younger years I would suffer social anxiety so badly that I needed to get horribly drunk to approach a girl, can't really do that in a library or the supermarket.

So it was either that or the girls that approached me. So I had many flings lasting 3 months or less. Took years for a proper relationship. That is when you learn real emotional pain.
 
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Sure it is. I am a bloke who puts mental intamacy and connection above most any deformaties, education, class or culture. Ok most blokes can be pretty horrible but I am pretty sure I am not alone.
It’s not easy for me find it hard
 
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