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LORD BURT

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It is irritating that the hearing voices group I go to - we don't talk about voices.

We just sit there, and the facilitator gives us a home economics tutorial.

Don't get me wrong she is a lovely lady, but really - why can't we talk about the voices?

Would be helpful to share our experiences, get things off our chest, and learn from each other.

Instead we talk about mundane sixth form topics.
 
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It is irritating that the hearing voices group I go to - we don't talk about voices.

We just sit there, and the facilitator gives us a home economics tutorial.

Don't get me wrong she is a lovely lady, but really - why can't we talk about the voices?

Would be helpful to share our experiences, get things off our chest, and learn from each other.

Instead we talk about mundane sixth form topics.
I bet if you think like that Burt, the others do too.
Is it comfortable to ask her, either during the session or after ...
You would think it would be part of it to talk about the voices,
Maybe there's a reason she doesn't encourage it,but I can't think of one..
 
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I bet if you think like that Burt, the others do too.
Is it comfortable to ask her, either during the session or after ...
You would think it would be part of it to talk about the voices,
Maybe there's a reason she doesn't encourage it,but I can't think of one..
I don't really have the will to do it now.
I think she has made us feel a bit ashamed of it.
I do not know why she avoids the topic -but now there is a unsaid feeling that we can't talk about it.
I do wonder what it is like at other hearing voices groups.
 
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To be honest Burt that sounds bad..
Even if as you say she is really nice , she shouldn't be making you feel ashamed of it.
It's hard enough for us all with mental illness, without going to a group for something specific and the tutor makes you feel ashamed. I'm so sorry you feel this.
Hope you get the will to mention it,or check out other groups maybe..I bet if you checked other hearing voices groups they would give you an idea what they do...
I'm quite shocked...maybe I'm missing something..
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It is just that the subject is totally ignored.
I always envisaged a hearing voices group - where each week we would talk about our voices and work through it. It would be very helpful I think.
Instead we talk about mundane life topics.
I can tell people there are struggling with the voices and the medications. But the group is all very lightweight.
It is a shame. it really is.
 
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Yes I think I would envisage same as you Burt.

And it does seem a shame.

Hope something gives there.
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I know I can't talk about it in everyday life. Ranting on here is as good as it gets.
It is a shame because we all share a similar fate at the group.
We are all adults, and we can cope with talking about it.
The best conversation I had at the group was about my p-doc with a fellow service user. We both had bad experiences with her. I wish we could do more of that, talk about our shared experiences.
Not mundane life skills.
 
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I don't really have the will to do it now.
I think she has made us feel a bit ashamed of it.
I do not know why she avoids the topic -but now there is a unsaid feeling that we can't talk about it.
I do wonder what it is like at other hearing voices groups.
That's no good, I don't understand why she is denying the object of the group. Im sorry this happens. Agree with unique 1, I bet the others feel the same too. I've been to a couple of hv groups and from the off each meeting started with a check in, each person giving a short review of the week, how voices and mh in general had been, and if we wanted to discuss something in the group we could write it on the board, which then set the "agenda" for the rest of the time, making sure each person got chance to speak if we wanted to. It wasn't formal but meant we were kept on topic. Could you speak to anyone else in the group, see how they feel and maybe it might feel easier to chat to the facilitator together? Hope this improves, they can really provide good support if done for the benefit of the group rather than the comfort of the facilitator x
 
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Yes agree with you Burt
I know it's easy for me to say but I would be tempted to try and ask, if it were ever possible to have a session about the voices...

How frustrating for you all.it sounds like you could get a lot from each other too...
Would you email her and ask or is that not something that would be good to do...

I hate it when there are missed opportunities that could help people.
 
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That's no good, I don't understand why she is denying the object of the group. Im sorry this happens. Agree with unique 1, I bet the others feel the same too. I've been to a couple of hv groups and from the off each meeting started with a check in, each person giving a short review of the week, how voices and mh in general had been, and if we wanted to discuss something in the group we could write it on the board, which then set the "agenda" for the rest of the time, making sure each person got chance to speak if we wanted to. It wasn't formal but meant we were kept on topic. Could you speak to anyone else in the group, see how they feel and maybe it might feel easier to chat to the facilitator together? Hope this improves, they can really provide good support if done for the benefit of the group rather than the comfort of the facilitator x
Would you discuss the voices at your group stray?
 
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Yes agree with you.
I know it's easy for me to say but I would be tempted to try and ask, if it were ever possible to have a session about the voices...

How frustrating for you all.it sounds like you could get a lot from each other too...
Would you email her and ask or is that not something that would be good to do...

I hate it when there are missed opportunities that could help people.
I will try and bring it up this week. I hope I am brave enough.
 
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Hi, sorry, yes, that's what I mean, the whole focus was on the group members' experiences of voices. Peer support, sharing experiences, offering ideas and the facilitator might offer some ideas too. X
 
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Hi, sorry, yes, that's what I mean, the whole focus was on the group members' experiences of voices. Peer support, sharing experiences, offering ideas and the facilitator might offer some ideas too. X
yeah that sounds normal. I think the worst thing about avoiding it is that we all feel a bit ashamed now.
Thanks.
 
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That's so awful, she really needs to know, you don't need to be shamed, that is a sure way to stop the group functioning imo. She needs to know. But agree it's hard to do. Maybe the hv network could advise. x
Their email is : [email protected]
 
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