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Irrational Pregnancy Fear

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bella27

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Hi

I have a completely irrational fear of being pregnant. I have been pregnant 3 times (only have 1 child) and each time suffered from hyperemesis graidarum (severe morning sickness), I would love to have another and have done for the last 4 years since my son was born. Last year we started trying and I fell pregnant quite quickly and what should have been a happy moment turned into a nightmare. I cried constantly, I was sick all the time, I couldn't eat anything and I felt like my son was being left out. For weeks I couldn't even talk about it with my husband, I just didn't want to acknowledge it was even happening. In the end I got so depressed and scared I felt I had no option but to have an abortion. My husband didn't really understand but he did support my decision. We are looking at trying again but I am terrified of the same thing happening, actually having the baby doesn't scare me it's the thought of how ill I get and the trauma from my full term pregnancy that I can't get past.

Does anyone have any advice on how to get past this?

Thanks
 
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Have you discussed this with your GP? I wonder if they could refer you to someone for some therapy pre-pregnancy or put an early referral in to the perinatal mental health team to see you as soon as you are pregnant to help you cope. Also is there anything they can do to support you with the physical symptoms?
 
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bella27

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I spoke to a nurse after it happened and she did recommend that I could come see them if I decided to get pregnant again or if I was again. Although my husband was understanding at the time, I know he does hold it against me. He doesn't understand depression or how I felt and thinks it's an excuse not to deal with things. I've had a long history with depression and had suicide attempts but have been able to overcome it the last few years. My husband thinks I can be cold hearted at times but it's only because I've learned to not show emotion in public for things that hurt. I was on anti sickness medication the entire pregnancy the last time, spent time in hospital and was on drips every few days but when I try and explain that my husband thinks I should just deal with it as it is for the baby
 
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