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SammyD

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I am struggling with my depression right now. I feel hopeless all the time and, even though I am so grateful for everything I have in my life right now, I just feel like I want to disappear. Does anyone have any experience going to inpatient?
 
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JuliaW54

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I’m also in the deep with my depression and have similar feelings of hopelessness. I’m having such a day and I’ve been offered a stay in hospital. I’m not sure about going, but thinking it through. At the end of the day, you have to do what is right for you. Get well quickly
 
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Probably should discuss options with your doctor. Are you asking what inpatient is like or how much it helps, or both? I have had a number of inpatient stays over the years. The experience I have had depends entirely on the facility and what is involved with the stay(just sitting around vs having structured activities like groups etc). Best thing for depression phases I have found is not only to have professional care but also structured time so you're not just sitting around idle, thinking about your problems etc..in that regards stays at inpatient can often be very helpful because at most places, the time will be structured and there will be things to do and you will be around other people.

Where you would go might depend on where your Dr has admission privileges but if you have private insurance you can sometimes choose. What I have liked best is something called partial inpatient. I don't know if that is available but basically it's a program where you go to the hospital during the day but you go home after. Kind of like going to work or school. obviously its only for people who are not in danger of harming themselves or totally out of touch with reality or something but dont need around-the-clock observation or care etc Same benefits as inpatient but you get to go home and sleep in your own bed at night.

Overall, yes an inpatient stay can be of help. Again I would talk with your dr about it as an option. But based on my stays and many years in the MH system, my number one advice(to anyone) would be to not hold off on it and let it get to the point where you get to the state you are so depressed or troubled that a stay becomes involuntary. At that point, it's a different experience altogether. They treat you different and exert more control over your activities and you might even be assigned to a close-watch unit, which means everything you do is strictly controlled and monitored and it isn't the best experience as it can feel more like you are in a National Geographic prison episode of 'Lockup Raw'. They will still treat you with respect, but for the most part its run like a jail and exert a lot of control over you.
 
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SammyD

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Ty you for your help. I guess I was wondering if it was the right choice to treat depression. You are right on the "idle time" front. I find it gets worse when I am alone and have no structured time. I isolate and won't leave the house unless I have to. Even when I am home, I can't get the energy to do anything constructive. I feel like I am stuck in this merry go round of sadness and am not quite sure how to handle it and feel like I am useless.

I appreciate your help with this. I will give it more thought
 
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Hi Sammy,
I do hope you get some help, it is right to treat depression.
I hope you feel better very soon.
You need support at the moment.
Take care
 
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nyarb

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Ty you for your help. I guess I was wondering if it was the right choice to treat depression. You are right on the "idle time" front. I find it gets worse when I am alone and have no structured time. I isolate and won't leave the house unless I have to. Even when I am home, I can't get the energy to do anything constructive. I feel like I am stuck in this merry go round of sadness and am not quite sure how to handle it and feel like I am useless.

I appreciate your help with this. I will give it more thought

I also feel hopeless and worthless most days, rapid cycling of depressed mania, if that makes sense. I am on my meds, but have been dx'd for so long, I am wondering if the meds are helping me or just a waste of time and damage long term to my body. Now that I am getting older, I feel, sometimes, like it's just a waste to manage my condition with meds, but cannot sleep without my nightime medication, and sleep is like one of my scripts, if I don't get enough sleep I get worse.
I too only leave the house when I have to and to make matters worse, I am the caregiver to my older sister who has dementia.

So it's the blind leading the blind, but she is physically unable to do for herself and I am mentally unstable some days. I have to force myself, with a mantra, to get out of bed, deal with the first hour of the day ( my worse time ) and soldier on. But I keep saying I am strong, I can do this, because I have no choice. Some days are better than others, or should I say some days are worse than others, it depends on my mood which is 1/2 full or 1/2 empty. Until my sister dies, I will soldier on for her, when she dies, I don't know. It takes a lot for me to get through the day and pisses me off that I am not able to get in the shower, go to the grocery store, cook a meal, do laundry, etc. Once upon a time, that was so easy for me to do, now not so.

Glad to be here, to whine and maybe get a lift now and then, to get a "feel" good comment, as the rest of my world just doesn't understand me.
 
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You certainly have a lot on your plate. Keep going Trooper! And always here to listen if you want to chat x
 
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