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Innate Suppression of Personality and Emtions

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tkd80

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Hello

I believe that I subconsciously am suppressing my personality and emotions. It is entirely subconscious and I want to reverse it.

I believe this stems from my mom who was very supresive growing up. I think I am stuck like this now and I am trying to reverse it.

Does anyone have any insight on this or can they help me? Thank you.
 
ARKSatMidnight

ARKSatMidnight

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I always do the same. I've been doing it since I was a little kid. I can't remember who I am anymore and even though I'm very sensitive I usually hardly feel anything.

I don't have any good tips. Music is the only thing that can melt my frozen heart at least a little bit. Sometimes I've meditated and forced my feelings up to the surface, but it hasn't helped in the long run or anything.
 
Poopy Doll

Poopy Doll

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Have you tried psychotherapy ?? I helped myself also reading books like John Bradshaw's The Family
and I particularly liked The Shame That Binds Us.

The idea is to go back into the child self and restore it to a natural state without the negative programming.
 
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Writeme

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This is either stoicism and being told to hold your feelings inside or possibly stems from being really hurt. Numbness and not allowing yourself to feel can seem like a good way to keep from getting hurt. The truth is: you're really missing out on the world by not allowing yourself to feel. I've had many times in my life when I've shut things out. What worked for me is to literally stop and smell the roses.

If you go to an art museum or watch a TV program, read a book, feel the sun on your face, ask yourself, how is this making me feel? Am I happy? Am I sad? Allow whatever is going on to shine through. You may find that you've been feeling more than you think. Also, you might find your emotions overwhelming, because for a long time, you haven't allowed yourself to really examine what's going on.

Don't be afraid of these extreme emotions, they'll balance themselves out, as you find your way into the world. Also, don't ever let anyone tell you that you are too sensitive or that you feel too much or that you should hold your feelings inside. Anyone who does is being abusive and judgmental. Life is all about experience, feeling, touch, taste, smell, see...there's a whole big world out there waiting for you.
 
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