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In the middle of a huge hiccup at the moment

archie_fields

archie_fields

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Hi everyone, it's fair to say things are really hard at the moment. My partner has a current diagnosis of severe panic disorder, severe agoraphobia and chronic depression (although the pyschiatrist isn't happy with those and wants to ammend them after a few more sessions) and is medically unable to work. She's only 22 and hasn't managed more than a week in employment since she left school aged 15. I'm a full time student as well as her carer which puts a lot of pressure on me.

We've got a great GP who's done more in 18 months than the specialists did in Australia (she's Australian by birth and emigrated 18 months ago) in 7.5 years. She was on Lofepramine for 12 months which was by far the best medication she's ever been on but in January that stopped working. She's now on Haloperidol, Atenolol and Mirtazapine (sp?) which is slowly starting to work - she's only been on this combination for about 4 weeks now.

We have good days and bad days, Monday we had an appointment with the psychiatrist so Tuesday was horrendous but mostly we do ok - it's just so damn hard because everytime I dare to vent about the day I've had I get jumped on by people telling me I should send her home to her parents and that I'm a bad mother by bringing someone this ill into my children's lives.
 
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Dollit

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If you care for your kids as much as you care for your girlfriend then personally I would say that you'd be okay as a mother! Exposing your children to someone with mental health problems isn't a sin and I take it she's not a danger to other people or you would have thought twice.

Vent on here - a lot of us set up blogs as our own space to do that or we can pm and have a good scream off forum. You'll get support here and people will tell you how they cope and good advice about anything. Look forward to getting to know you. :hug:
 
archie_fields

archie_fields

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She's definitely not a danger to the children, I'm not that daft (although I know there are people who think I am!) and she's not a danger to herself, she's just so damn flat at the moment and I'm struggling to find ways to remind her just how good she can get and how great things are when she's properly medicated.
 
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Dollit

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If determination can help things then you've got the best chance in the world. I try to hold on to a really good thing for when things get bad. A little thing that's easy to conjure up. Like that first day you can go for a walk without a jumper. Or anything similar that's simple. When you're that depressed you can't remember how it feels to laugh but maybe you can remember what it was that made you smile last. Slow and steady and look after yourself too. You're a courageous and inspiring person. :hug:
 
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maudikie

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archie fields.

If your daughter has a mental illness it is NOT your fault. I think it is dreadful when the parents get blamed for an illness. I hope you get her well settled on new medication before long. I know it is very tiring. Are you getting any aftercare for her, and have you had a carer's assessment to which you re entitled.? If not ask for one.:hug:
 
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Dollit

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Maudikie

The poster is talking about her partner who lives with her not one of her children and no one is blaming her for her partner's illness.
 
archie_fields

archie_fields

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The mirtazapine has been increased up to 45mg a day (I think that's the maximum dosage) and she's also got some sleeping tablets which are fantastic!! We told the doctor he had to prescribe sleeping tablets and we didn't care who had them!

We've had a horrible time so far this year but it feels as if we're turning the corner and things are getting better.

I've not had a carers assessment done but I'm going to have to get something done soon as my uni work is starting to suffer.
 
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Dollit

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I'm glad things are beginning to change - you must love Hope an awful lot. :flowers:
 
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maudikie

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dollit.

thanks for the info.! Lovely sun here today, but very cold still. I am lucky to be cosy.
 
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