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CharlieAB

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I feel somewhat silly that I have to post here because I feel I can’t speak to those closest to me but here I am, I really appreciate being able to do this.
This year has been hard financially and with work and my self esteem feels shattered, I started self harming and I’ve kept it a secret, my boyfriend doesn’t know but I want to tell him because it’s making me feel low. But recently he’s told me he’s really struggling with his mental health too in terms of depression and I feel I just can’t put my own stuff on him, but then I just feel so alone in my experiences. Every time I get upset I SH and it’s a new experience for me, I want to stop - I’m going to the doctors tomorrow about it, if anyone reads this / do you think telling my boyfriend will make his own mental health worse or make me feel ashamed? I’m so scared to but also can’t deal with this alone anymore. Feel so low today :( xxx
 
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CharlieAB

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I own a home with my boyfriend by the way which makes hiding it all feel more shameful and secretive x
 
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thats a difficult dilemma, telling him could make him worse but also not telling him might make him feel like you dont trust him :hug:

is your self harm in a place he could see? would he be able to find the used first aid stuff?

and is he getting his own help? :hug:
 
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CharlieAB

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I know! I feel like telling him will make him worse but also the longer I leave it the More he will be mad for not telling him and the lonelier I will also feel.

My self harm doesn’t tend to need first aid and it’s usually in places he can’t see and he’s away a lot with work and I tend to do it then.

Do you think maybe I should just seek my own help first and then tell him with advice from therapist?

He’s refusing to get help at the minute is all very difficult :cry::cry:

Thanks for you reply xxxx :hug:
 
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Fancyharm

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I really hope you get it sorted soon. Try and post on the forum as much as you can. People here will support you. Lots of love to you. X
 
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