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gurl2134

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So I didn’t see my boyfriend by for a few days until today and I was having bad thoughts about how I feel me and my boyfriend don’t have anything to talk about. It was getting me scared that me and my boyfriend are growing apart. I love my boyfriend so much and I care so much about him. I never want to loose him. I want to marry i him some day. One of my bad thoughts was that I didn’t love him I just loved that thought of having a boyfriend. That scares me so much, my boyfriend is my everything. I want to be his wife one day. I just need some reassurance about it all. But I know I’m all in my head. I just so deeply for my boyfriend he’s my whole world.
 
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caramelpopcorn

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Hey, maybe you could try talking to him about how you feel? If he doesn't feel like you are growing apart, it's reassurance that the intrusive thoughts aren't true. If he seems to agree, try and figure out what steps you can take to make the relationship work. Have movie nights, go to the gym together, or just take long walks - whatever works for you.
Talking about relationship concerns with your partner always helps. You are both navigating this together and deserve honest communication.
Hope things get sorted and you feel better very soon. 💙
 
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AnxiousHan

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Having some time away can be hard, I think just try make sure you see a lot more of him in the next couple of weeks and then if you still feel the same, talk to him about it. I’m in the same boat, I had 5 days away from the boyfriend and I need to fall back in the routine of seeing him more, not because I don’t want to but where my anxiety is heightened I’m finding it hard to do everything, but I know I love him with all my heart and he has been so supportive of me just as I have been open about my deals. That to me is so important and he chose to stay and he did not have to and he is still here so I need to make sure I’m putting in the effort, to look nice be positive and nice and to see him. Even when I wanna curl up in bed till my anxiety rids itself. I think it’s hard because people like us are always thinking that we know what’s going on in someone’s head when we don’t. The reassurance is he is still with you!! If any person didn’t want something they wouldn’t do it, everything’s okay x
 
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gurl2134

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thank you so much. Ya I keep having these bad thoughts going through my head about I’m not happy in my relationship, that I’m with my boyfriend just to make him happy, and not myself. Those bad thoughts scare me so much, I start to doubt my love for him. But I remind myself I do love him, if I didn’t I wouldn’t care so much. I just need reassurance for stuff like this.
 
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