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Im soo worried about my friend! Plz help

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My friend is an 18 year old girl and shes been in therapy since she was 14 because shes struggled with depression and anxiety, self-harm and suicide attempts. She has reluctantly told me that she hears voices, that I cant hear, she says they threaten her and try and control her, she says that the voices are telling her that the government is after her and that she feels like everyone is watching her and talking about her. When I visit her she’s kept all the curtains and blinds shut to ‘stop people being able to see her’
She says her voices tell her that she has ‘special information’ that the government want, but its in the unconsciousness of her brain and she would therefore have to be killed for it to be retrieved.
She got out of psychiatric hospital a few months ago and she was in there for 3 months, when she was in there she became convinced of her food being poisoned and refused to eat it.. She says she wanted to tell the staff there more then she did about the voices and stuff but the voices told her that they weren’t to be trusted and that they were working along with the government too.. Consequently she is fearful of admitting these things to her current social worker and psychiatrist.. She is a shadow of her former self, she rarely leaves her flat, and her self-care is extremely low. She is also self-harming badly and I know she’s considering suicide as an alternative to being ‘murdered’ I don’t know how to help her, if there’s anything you can suggest.. To me it sounds like schizophrenia.. but I dont really know..
Help please!
 
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hello there i am sorry you are going through this with your friend she is lucky to have you on her side you have described paranoid schitzophrenia to the tee i personally have this and have all my blinds shut etc but i have great insight and know some of the beliefs i have arent real it didnt used to be like that i used to drink all the time and not wash live in a mess etc but you cant "fix" your friend the best you can do is continue to be her friend and be positive when you talk to her dont get on her case and realise that she is ill and is going to be ill for a long time. :D
 
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Thanks so much for a reply..

Is there anything in particular I could do to help her??

Im desperate to get her to talk to her pscyhciatrist and stuff but because of the delusions she wont.. is there anything I could say to her to help persuade her that they are trust worthy??
 
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hi there tell her what you told me? that you worried about her and think she should tell her phyciatrist whats going on inside her head. but if she doesnt dont worry shes in the right hands phyciatrists are very well trained. also this is a very lonely disease you are doing marvels just by being there for her seriousley many scitzophrenics have nobody at all. maybe go to a doctor and ask them if you have any questions i am sure they wwould let you know how to help other than that be strong for her many schizophrenics go on to learn all about there disease maybe go walking with her exersize can be great and have a giggle just dont make the relationship all about the scitzophrenia. i tell you what helped me when i as in that situation a small cross stitch kit like embroidery really calmed me down and gave me something to focus on.you are already doing what you need to do all anyone CAN do for another being there and listening to her. and try not to worry too much, you have to look after yourself first goodluck shes lucky to have you diddy:)
 
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You've done brilliantly by just writing this for her on this forum.

I'm schizophrenic, and had my 1st breakdown at a young age. I'm hitting 40 and have been upside down and all over the gaff.

The system is a cruel teacher in many respects, and a lot of getting better - resides in the person who experiences it.

As a friend, it sounds obvious that you care an awful lot and this experience is a hell of a lot to take on by yourself. It can get difficult and unpleasant. Which is the sorry truth.

Treatment in the UK, through hospital can be harrowing. The nurses and staff are not as good as they could be - that's a book initself - but that aside, there is an option of receiving home treatment.

this is usually organised via a GP or Mental Health Worker - usually known as a CPN - community psychiatric nurse. There should also be a duty social worker in your borough who you could contact to take the weight off you. The system is a maze if you're new to it. However they are unlikely to take action unless the "client" is willing.

If there is a local mind association in your area, I would give them a ring, and ask if anyone would (a) talk to your friend (b) and then facilitate some kind of referral to get the ball rolling to get her some treatment.

Just google some mental health organisation in your neck of the woods that could facilitate some help. Try not to do this move to medication by yourself. It's a lot to take on. And forgive the patronizing, but you're still young - there are people out there that can and should help.

If you're lost still after about a couple of weeks of calls. send us a personal message.
 
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Hi i was in a similar position to your friend, and didnt want go get help either, but i did know something was badly wrong. what i eventually did was ask my mother to speak to my gp and tell him about the way i was behaving, and what i should do. he was great about it and told my mother that he would love for me to come and see him to have a chat. i found this really encouraging so its exactly what i did.. and from there i began to get the help i needed. perhaps this would work with your friend, it might be worth a try if she refuses to see her gp herself.
 
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Hey..
Things have just got a load worse..
Apparently her support worker, social worker and psychiatrist turned up at the door of her flat, wanting to talk to her because they are worrying about her mental state, she wouldnt let them in, and then they told her they would talk to her in the office's lounge area.. and they'd let her get changed and wait for her in there, so she climbed out of her kitchen window, (which is on the other side of the building so they couldnt see) and ran, she hid somewhere in the woods and phoned me in hysterics.. shes convinced there going to 'hurt her' She was begging me to not let them hurt her..
I tried my best to calm her down and eventually she seemed a little calmer, but she still refused to go back saying she wasnt going to let them 'get her'
A few hours later I phoned her again, and eventually persuaded her to go back to her flat, and have a rest and calm down.. they had all left by this point cept her support worker who said that she'd see her 2moz and now she's worried theyll all be coming back 2moz to try and 'get her' again..
Ive told her Im extremely worried, but she just says not to be and that she knows to just be extra cautious about life and everyone, everything..

Dont know what to do.. just needed to get it all out I spose..
Im worried..
 
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sounds like ur friend needs help u could try presude her 2 get some help if not u have done all u can and it,s time 2 let the mh services take over it,s in her best intrests they simply won,t go away and leave her the way she is they,ll be back
 
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I cant persuade her to get help, because as far as she's concerned she's not ill.. I know they wont just leave her.. as we've found out..
They called a mental health assessment for her yest, but she climbed outta her window again, and ran again.
The police were called this time to find her, but she managed to convince them she was fine, so she just got taken back to her flat..
They're calling another mental health assessment and say they're gonna have police escorts and stuff to stop her running away again..
I didnt know they could do that.
She's terrified. I know I would be too..
She doesnt really know what to expect..
Anyone having any experiences of mental health assessments, with or without police..
 
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Your friend will probably be sectioned.I think they have to have a social worker present.When I was sectioned there were two psychiatrists and a social worker.No police.
 
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yep they need a social worker they did when i got sectioned ne way
 

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