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Im sick of this, can someone please help me?

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I have been suffering from depression anxiety/derealization for about 4-5 years I get extremely strong feelings of not being real and that the world is just a game or some sort made up reality and I'm really sick of feeling like this, I'm unable to do anything, I can't even do simple tasks like walking to the shop, my girlfriend of 6 years is getting sick of me not being able to do anything and that makes me feel worse because I'm stopping her from doing what she wants. If anyone can advise me on what to do? I'm already on medication, I take 30mg of citalapram, I've cut caffeine out of my life, but nothing works. I can't sleep and I can't go out, so if anyone has anything that will help please let me know.
Thank you
 
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breathing techniques, you see when you feel tense & anxious not enough fresh oxygen flows into the brain for it to function well hence the derealiation, & it tends to circle, intense rational & positive thinking, learning relaxation techniques, controlling your breathing, dropping your shoulders.
 
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Thank you for replying, I have tried all of the breathing techniques and the grounding techniques but just never seem to work :/
 
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it can take an incredible amount of patience, I went out for long walks, literally for 6 hours on end, to the beach, countryside places, thinking intense rational, positive & relaxing thoughts, & it can literally takes weeks of doing that. I'm not completely great, but stopped drinking vodka & internet gambling, because it was using my money, so doing that got my spending under control.
 
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Okay thank you again, I will definitely try going out for walks more often I did used to do that everyday and I was getting better at that point but then I just stopped and I let the fear get to me
 
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I'd see your doctor, if the medication isn't working out for you, or not well enough, they may suggest increasing the dosage or trying something else.

Have you actually had a diagnosis from a consultant about derealisation? Sometimes we can talk ourselves into these things a bit and overthink them. By way of example, my DID medication consists of several antidepressants, antianxiatals and antipsychotics. If this is something that you are suffering from, 30mg of a weak SSRI is unlikely to fix it.

Get a referral from your GP as he/she isn't sufficiently specialised to give that kind of diagnosis.
 
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Great conversation!!! I use to walk miles a day. Then I moved up into the woodlands. I need to start again=just feel so exposed in this country place.

Walking curbed all my medical conditions and definitely improved my mental state.

Gosh why am I so relentant to help myself become better.
 
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I have to think that if you were to jump into a freezing cold swimming pool you would not be able to disassociate because the immediacy of the sensation would keep you awake in the present moment, right? So you can do this in a more subtle way. All you have to do is connect to the senses. How? Just focus on feeling your feet on the floor. It grounds us. Then focus on feeling different parts of the body, the play of air on the skin, just listen to the sounds around you without interpreting them, smell a lemon or a flower, taste a raisin. The exercise should bring you into the present moment. If thoughts arise (which they will) just observe them and gently let them go. Don't judge them, don't judge yourself. It's a gentle exercise.
 
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You are such a sweet heart Mary26. I just tried your recommendation.... I heard chickens moving about squriels eating the food I put out for them. My dogs looking out the window wandering why they cannot fetch then up. I have hunting dogs. One of them has killed numbereous chickens we have on property. I handed raised all my hens in my closet-mess yes but they got out on there own just to have dogs hawks coyetes and raccoons to take their lives.

Talk about being a basket case when these things occur I am. I come from the city. I just love my dogs and chickens. I have a bunch of indoor birds and a turtle and when my depression sets in it is the only thing I pay attention too-feeding watering and
providing safety.

That's my life now re -ajusting to becoming a better person and willing to say goodbye when neccessary.
 
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I have wanted to say goodbye to myself many times. Just to wake up and say No way as too much is happening in my life as far as mu son and animals.
 
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I'd see your doctor, if the medication isn't working out for you, or not well enough, they may suggest increasing the dosage or trying something else.

Have you actually had a diagnosis from a consultant about derealisation? Sometimes we can talk ourselves into these things a bit and overthink them. By way of example, my DID medication consists of several antidepressants, antianxiatals and antipsychotics. If this is something that you are suffering from, 30mg of a weak SSRI is unlikely to fix it.

Get a referral from your GP as he/she isn't sufficiently specialised to give that kind of diagnosis.
Yeah I do need to go back too the doctors, I just find it hard to go anywhere, but yes I have been diagnosed with derealization my counsler diagnosed me I was also told in an assessment that I had it. So you suggest getting my dosage upped? And maybe inquiring about other medication? Also thank you for the advice :)
 
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Hi, I have been suffering from derealisation since the beginning of this year. It was triggered by a transatlantic plane trip from America to London. I arrived on the 31st of December which gave my SAD brain an inadequate amount of time to adapt to my external environment. It’s terribly frustrating, I won’t be travelling much anymore.

Anyhow, I feel as though I am numb. My state of mind is also fragmented, I have random intrusions of memories from all the locations I have been too at random intervals throughout the day. I don’t feel as though I am in the U.K., my head is in America and various other places. It’s very perturbing, I don’t know about any of you, but I have also been beleaguered by suicidal ideation nearly everyday for the past four months. Anyhow, I just want some respite, as we all do! You start to feel like a stranger to yourself, it’s very frightening.

I believe it has something to do with my nervous system. More specifically, my hormones and endocrine system. Some feedback loop is not working correctly, I’ve also lost plenty of weight and cannot weight lift. I feel weak and feeble, not the intellectually gifted and athletically incline individual I was every other year leading up to 2019.

Anyhow, we will all see light eventually. Keep going, never settle.
 
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According to me you should try some yoga or some exercise but please try it on daily bases. That would be helpful for you..
 
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