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tangram

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I haven't been diagnosed with any mental health disorder because im too scared and anxious to go and see a specialist. My younger sister is battling depression and its hard enough on my parents for one daughter going through issues as oppose to two.

I cant seem to control my actions. When i have heated arguments with my partner i lash out constantly yelling and screaming at him and breaking objects. I say some horrible things to him and feel completely crazy. I know thats wrong and shouldn't be doing it but my emotions take over and another side comes out that i didn't know existed. I express to him that i want to end my life and cant do it anymore and he dosent know what to say back. He tries to comfort me but nothing works.

My partner is away on an overseas holiday at the moment and i dont have any close friends to talk to this about so i have decided to post on this forum to hopefully get some advice. Im really struggling.

Thanks guys!
 
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There's nothing to be scared about, it's just like going to the doctor for anything else and as I've said on here before, if you had broken your leg you wouldn't sit at home, you'd be off to get it fixed; the same thing applies. I've been through it all, there's nothing to fear and it's the only way to get help for your problems.

How long has this been going on for and has anything happened recently that could have contributed to feeling like this? Any changes at all?
 
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tangram

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thanks for your help!

Just issues with my partner and now his distance in being overseas, uni work adds to the stress and it is very overwhelming. It has been going on for around 6 months and everytime just seems to be getting worse and worse im fearful one day it will all just be too much to handle.
 
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Hi Tangram, I absolutely agree with Drooo. Do you know who to call to make an appointment for an evaluation? Can you pinpoint what is making you reluctant to start the process of getting some help? What part of it makes you scared/anxious. I appreciate that you want to be sensitive to your parents burden but as a parent I know I would be sad to find out that my daughter was not getting the medical attention she needed. Does that make sense?
 
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tangram

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Thank you for your help I really appriciate it

The reason why I haven’t gone to seek help is that one I don’t know where to go and two if I do go they will dismiss me and just put it down to stress. The thought of being undiagnosed scares me abit don’t know why? I also feel like my partner thinks I’m overacting he Dosent say anything but I sense that he’s feeling that.
 
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I definitely understand all of your reasons. When you have never done something before, and you don't know how/what to do, it's a LOT of effort to get started. And I certainly don't have all the exact answers but here are some suggestions that come to mind:
1) start with your regular medical doctor if you have one because all mental health needs also have physical health concerns related to them. When you talk with doctor make sure that you are honest about the stress, the out of control feelings, the suicidal feelings. If that doctor doesn't offer a mental health evaluation as an option, ask about having one.
2) in my community there are also mental health clinics which offer public services. Maybe you can find something like that in your area.
3) if you know of other people who are receiving mental health care, ask them who they see, where they go for their services

Getting some answers will likely also help in your relationship with your partner so both of you can have a better understanding of what is happening and how to work together instead of against one another.

I hope some of this is helpful and I hope you will continue to post for support and encouragement as you take some steps toward your health :)
 
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Thank you so much for the support i really appreciate it

Talking on this forum makes me feel so much better already

Thanks for your advice :)
 
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Feel free to message me if you want to chat again in the future :)
 
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All the posts are right. The G.P. is there to guide you. If he thinks you need a specialist, he will refer you. Just tell him/her whats going on. If it helps write it down so you don't forget anything. There is nothing to be scared of. Get it sorted, then you can relax.

Best Wishes
 
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The first step I took was going to my gp. I wasn’t going to go as I’d been used to feeling like I did for 10 years. But it was my friends who noticed I really wasn’t well and encouraged me to go to the gp.
I didn’t even know what to say when I got there and just broke down in tears. I tried to explain that I had been feeling suicidal amongst other things and she made an urgent referral to my local community mental health team.

Things did deteriorate the next day and I ended up being taken to hospital and had an assessment there and then.

I am still getting support too.

Hopefully it doesn’t get to that stage for you but I would definitely recommend speaking to your gp as the first step.
 
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