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I'm new here and tired of being alone

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Jjpp

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Hi. Im new on this forum. To any forum for that matter. I am just looking to connect with people and not have to fake being happy or "normal" or whatever people call it. I'm just here trying to be an open book without fear or guilt of feeling like there is something wrong with me. I just want to talk to people trying, just like me, to manage BPD. No fake smiles and small talk. No looking like you interested in things that don't even matter to you. Just convos like "I'm sad, but I learned this today and it may help" and "yeah I go though that, it sucks". I just want some understanding and support. No b.s.
 
angry butterfly

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Hi, welcome to the forum.:welcome:
 
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Thank you. Not gonna lie. I was afraid this would be buried and wouldn't be seen by anyone. Thank you for the acknowledgement:peace:
 
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You're welcome. I'm in a very, very bad place atm so cant really talk much, but wanted to welcome you and say yeah it definately sucks, to put it mildly.
 
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It's ok. You don't have to talk. That's why I came to a place like this. Not to talk all the time. But to listen and know I'm not crazy cuz other people feel this way. I'm sorry you are in a bad place. Struggling is hard to cope with. But thank you noticing me anyway. No need to answer if you don't feel like it.
 
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Hi. Im new on this forum. To any forum for that matter. I am just looking to connect with people and not have to fake being happy or "normal" or whatever people call it. I'm just here trying to be an open book without fear or guilt of feeling like there is something wrong with me. I just want to talk to people trying, just like me, to manage BPD. No fake smiles and small talk. No looking like you interested in things that don't even matter to you. Just convos like "I'm sad, but I learned this today and it may help" and "yeah I go though that, it sucks". I just want some understanding and support. No b.s.
Hi. Welcome to the forum, the place where you post whatever you like without any fear of judgement. Lots of great advice on here so from here on in, you’re not alone.
 
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Tryin2gethelp

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Hi, being open is a great place, there are things that have certainly helped me to not judge myself as harshly as I once did, feeling the way I, you, any of "us" feel is OK, we are doing the best we can, and thats alright. Doing the best I can, is the best anyone should really expect of me. I have bad times, but they last less and are no longer as intrusive or diffucult. I accept I sometimes see things more negatively in other people, and try to take that into account, i dont always manage that, but when i do, its feels good, when I dont manage it, i try not to beat myselp up over it.
 
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Hi, being open is a great place, there are things that have certainly helped me to not judge myself as harshly as I once did, feeling the way I, you, any of "us" feel is OK, we are doing the best we can, and thats alright. Doing the best I can, is the best anyone should really expect of me. I have bad times, but they last less and are no longer as intrusive or diffucult. I accept I sometimes see things more negatively in other people, and try to take that into account, i dont always manage that, but when i do, its feels good, when I dont manage it, i try not to beat myselp up over it.
You are right. I am learning how not to beat myself up about stuff I can change or control. It is hard though. One day at a time.
 
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