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I'm losing patience with people

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George10111

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I feel like I'm becoming angrier and angrier and I try so hard not to. I realize and know that I'm not better then anyone. There are a few people in my life who I just can't get along with anymore and I feel really bad because they like me.

One of them is my older brother's wife. I feel really bad because she drives me nuts. She's very kind and sweet but she is VERY chatty. Its mentally exhausting when she's around because she does not ever stop talking, and its petty, annoying one dimensional subject matter. For one she won't shut up about how much money she's making at her new job or about the recipe she found on an online cookbook. I can lend an ear but when I can't even get a breath in or a word out and the other person is practically spitting on you because they can't speak fast enough, it can be degrading and overwhelming to say the least.

Another is a now distant friend, former best friend. I love him but it has to be at a distance. The relationship if partially toxic. When we hang out he insists on keeping me out all night and makes me feel stupid for wanting to go home and sleep! We used to hang out every day for a year, then he moved to washington for three years and just moved back and is always hitting me up to hang out but I've had to ignore it. I feel bad but its just so exhausting. We're on completely different spectrums. He can go on and on from one social event to another for days with no sleep and food. This guy and his friends are way to thick with sarcasm. You can't have a serious conversation with them and I had to keep my distance because I just can't keep up.

I'm sorry to sound negative and unkind but I am just frustrated. Can anyone else relate in any way?
 
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George10111

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I give 100% effort to be the very best person I can be to all those whom I come into contact but it only results in 70% sometimes. I don't go out of my way to be rude but I'm just ill-tempered sometimes and lose the ability to keep up with someone else's social stance. I never spout out insults to these people in my life but I definitely push them out when it gets overwhelming. Its when they pry a desired response out of me that I get anger.
 
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Hi,
Sorry you have these issues, have you tried any therapy?
It's hard liking everyone, we're all human afterall.
Take care
 
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People...

They're the worst.

I have a pretty low threshold for bullshit, which gets me annoyed at people fast. So I started drinking. Socially and then everyday.

The alcohol lowers my bullshit meter. I have decided to stop drinking. It is a big deal because all of my in-laws are heavy drinkers.

After drinking over two 24 coronas + what ever I had when I ran out, I had hit my limit. I do not want to be drunk again. It is hard around my in-laws and even my wife does not want me to stop drinking - but I have to. I can't get drunk anymore. I don't even like the person I am when I am drunk.

Now I used to be angry at people visibly and was rude to others and shit before I knew I was unwell. I yelled at cashiers and store employees, people in bars, got into a few fights.

I am trying to be not affected by people anymore. You can't control what happens to you - you can only control how you react to it.
 
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George10111

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Last night I did some thinking and realized my shorter fuze is medication related. Among the side effects of these herbal meds I'm on, irritability is definitely one of them. I don't just get angry at people I get angry at other things like my computer, phone, car, etc. I feel like its hard to keep up in life right now for whatever reason and this too can add to it. Its like being on a treadmill that's slightly faster then you can run
 
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sherril2291

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It sounds like a good idea might be to get a physical exam and have some tests run to see if there is a physical cause to your edginess. I know that mood changes are definitely a side effect of many medications, so maybe the med could be changed. But really, after reading what your wrote, it sounds to me like you are establishing boundaries and parameters as to how you want to be treated and who you want to spend your time with. Those are healthy behaviors and decisions and there is nothing wrong with realizing that. Smile at the sister-in-law, listen politely for a couple of minutes, then move on. No excuses. Hang out with those who make you happy and understand your boundaries and respect your decisions. Sometimes we simply outgrow other people.
 
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