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I'm i not explaining myself right?

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Hopelessdepressedandpinkfloydlover

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I keep having this "inteventions" with my family and they ask me why I don't do enough, or what they do to help me? Why I don't let them? And then after they just day to me to find things to do that makes me feel better, they say they know i tried they say I do my best? So? Is this me or they are just talking circles.
I sometimes feel I live for them and for their expectations, even though they make me how I am and also, never make me understand what is purpose in life.
I can't control my mind and the constant pressure from myself to myself to become someone better and also remembering that I'm not capable of nothing.
 
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When I'm struggling I simplify things. I put no demands on myself. I simply live for the moment, which is a roof over my head, meals, sleep and whatever I please inbetween. When I am content with this, I will then start to see what I can do to build on what has gone before... Hope this helps :)
 
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I get that with family yes

expectations, ambitions, failures,
not sure they do very obvious interventions
but maybe subtle ones yes

end result is the same, leading to some kind of paralyis
even sometimes if they said something nice about me
then I feel I must try harder to get the same response !

I think ive stopped them doing the interventions really
by digging in my heels and insisting that I wont do what they want me to

:grouphug: 🎼
 
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Hopelessdepressedandpinkfloydlover

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I get that with family yes

expectations, ambitions, failures,
not sure they do very obvious interventions
but maybe subtle ones yes

end result is the same, leading to some kind of paralyis
even sometimes if they said something nice about me
then I feel I must try harder to get the same response !

I think ive stopped them doing the interventions really
by digging in my heels and insisting that I wont do what they want me to

:grouphug: 🎼
I don't know why they don't want me to cry or get angry or something like that, is inevitable, I have those and even worse comments from myself inside my head I don't want to hear that over again from them.
 
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Hopelessdepressedandpinkfloydlover

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When I'm struggling I simplify things. I put no demands on myself. I simply live for the moment, which is a roof over my head, meals, sleep and whatever I please inbetween. When I am content with this, I will then start to see what I can do to build on what has gone before... Hope this helps :)
I do simplify my life, stick to basics, but sometimes dealing with this is even worse when that happens, your just waiting for that drop of water to make the whole rain to start
 
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do you live with them ? and if so
is there any way you can move out ?
I dont think I could cope if I was back living with them

with some distance I can feel love for them
tolerate their faults,
and make stipulations about what is acceptable
well on some things
 
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