I'm going nuts making eye contact

EddieH

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I have been diagnosed with ocd regarding my inability to make eye contact. I'm really keen to fix the problem, it's almost like a nervous tick I have and I can tell it makes people edgy when talking to them. Was wondering if anyone else had the same problem. I'm on escalopram which seems to be helping a bit. The psychologist wants to try hypnosis to fix the problem anyone tried this?
 
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the less you worry or think about making eye contact, the more natural it becomes
 
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Can you use the trick of focusing at something just over their left or right shoulder? That way your eyes are in the right general direction without the pressure of eye contact?
 
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Agree, I'm over thinking th whole thing but can't seem to break free of this problem. I have a tendency to look down when talking to people, makes me seem strange. I'll try like you say staying in the general direction. Thanks guys
 
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I have been going thru this since my early 20"s, and I am still going thru it, and I am 68 yrs old. I don't consider it as an OCD. It's more like to me that when looking someone straight in the eye is like peering into their soul, and their peering into my soul, I read this somewhere along time ago. I'm going to try what Girl Interupted suggested, to focus on their shoulder....
 
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Sorry to here you're having trouble too @kayla77. I'm working through it and have improved a lot since taking escitalopram. Yeah that is something I don't like about eye contact too, but it is so important people take it for granted. All the best to you
 
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I rarely hold eye contact for an entire conversation. I “stare off into space” so I can focus on what is being said and what I’m saying. Never realized I did it until my bf told me. I was like wait it’d be normal to just like stare at your face when we talk? What? Haha.
 
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Making eye contact with random people in the street is a quick way to get into a fight. Especially if the other person has been drinking.
 
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Eye contact is something I've kind of struggled with before, mainly due to issues I had at school. Basically, if you even looked in the general direction of another girl in the changing rooms for PE, you'd have a ton of homophobic slurs thrown your way. Although I'm not gay, the whole looking-thing definitely affected me badly and I do struggle sometimes to maintain eye contact in a conversation. Sometimes it can depend on how well I know the person as well. I often have the fear that if I make eye contact with someone, they might act aggressively towards me. But then I stop and think to myself that it's clearly them who has the problem, not me. If someone looked my way in public and smiled at me I wouldn't see it as weird or challenging in any way, I'd see it as a nice thing. It's good that you're keen to fixing the problem and recognising that it's a problem, that's the first step towards recovery. I'd say just start out small, only try to make eye contact for a short amount of time, and also try not to think about it too much and eventually you'll grow accustomed to it. I hope this helps in some way xx
 

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