Dy7anr72
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I said in my introduction post that I understand that psychopathy itself is not a diagnosis, but here is my explanation of the situation.. I ask that you don't ask for specific information on dates/names/location or anything that could give away my own or my family's identity. I'm already afraid that someone I know is going to find me on this website and get me in trouble.
Nicknames (these are not their real names) : Darwin (my brother) Alice (his girlfriend of 1 and a half years)
My brother was diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder a few years ago and then was seen by a different psychologist early last year, she was incredibly nice good communication with me and my family but she stopped seeing Darwin a few months later because she felt he was no longer being co operative. I don't know what that really means, I didn't get a chance to ask but she left me with two files of what she wrote about Darwin and some advice to pass on to Alice.
Just know that I'm not very knowledgeable on psychopathy in general, but I know my brother very well so does mum and we have always suspected something was wrong right from the start, Darwin had unusual behaviors right from a small child. Please hear that my mum is a wonderful person, she raised my siblings and I alone and has never once hit or shouted at any of us. She took the time to try and get Darwin help as a child once his behaviors became worse, but nothing seemed to help as he really wouldn't have a bar of it.
As he's already been evaluated for other mental health conditions if you're wondering, I'm sure his diagnosis is correct.
Darwin in general has multiple personas he displays or creates for specific people, he puts people into categories and has had friends and relationships but they never lasted any longer than a month or two unless they were very useful in some way. Him and I unfortunately don't have the best relationship as brothers, he's never liked me and claims I'm a 'wannabe hero' even though this isn't true. Our relationship has gotten to the point where it's just doing favors for each other, but I feel like he just uses me for many reasons.
So my current problem which I'm asking for advice over,
Darwin met a girl a year and a half ago he met Alice, she's a lot younger than him and is still in college. I spoke to her after a few months of them being together, I knew I was risking possibly getting my ass beat but I couldn't stand the anxiety I had about what Darwin would eventually do to her, basically heartbreak her like all those other girls so I told her about Darwin's diagnosis and informed her about what psychopathy is, this didn't really go to plan as she never took this as a sign to get away from him but instead dedicated herself to stay with him and from many conversations we've had, said that Darwin told her how the other girls never really loved him and Alice intrigues him as she seems so different. I think he's taking advantage of the fact he somehow knows I told Alice he's a psychopath and convinced her that she's managed to 'change him.' Darwin doesn't personally believe psychopathy even exists besides from in movies, so he thinks its utterly fictional. I don't think Alice is stupid, she seems like such a bright girl and is doing well in college but she's really getting her brain turned to mush by Darwin and it's making it hard for me to sleep at night. Sexual, emotional and mental abuse has been involved in his previous relationships, most of those girls befriended me and basically talked to me throughout the whole thing, in the end both them and even their family becomes affected. They're all so young as easily fooled.
I'm extremely afraid of the consequences if I yet again try to break apart Alice's relationship with Darwin, the fact that she loves him so much despite what she knows is so sweet, she even knows she's in danger but says she'll deal with it. But she really doesn't know what she's doing, I've tried countless times to talk her out of it but she won't listen or take any of the advice I give her. I care about her so much and she's family at this point, she's already being abused/manipulated and doesn't realize it. Shes spent so much time educating herself on psychopathy and personality disorders / psychology in general, she wants to be a psychologist when she gets out of college. I really want her to get out of the relationship safely before she really is in serious danger. It's not physical abuse so I can't get the police involved. I'm so stuck.
Nicknames (these are not their real names) : Darwin (my brother) Alice (his girlfriend of 1 and a half years)
My brother was diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder a few years ago and then was seen by a different psychologist early last year, she was incredibly nice good communication with me and my family but she stopped seeing Darwin a few months later because she felt he was no longer being co operative. I don't know what that really means, I didn't get a chance to ask but she left me with two files of what she wrote about Darwin and some advice to pass on to Alice.
Just know that I'm not very knowledgeable on psychopathy in general, but I know my brother very well so does mum and we have always suspected something was wrong right from the start, Darwin had unusual behaviors right from a small child. Please hear that my mum is a wonderful person, she raised my siblings and I alone and has never once hit or shouted at any of us. She took the time to try and get Darwin help as a child once his behaviors became worse, but nothing seemed to help as he really wouldn't have a bar of it.
As he's already been evaluated for other mental health conditions if you're wondering, I'm sure his diagnosis is correct.
Darwin in general has multiple personas he displays or creates for specific people, he puts people into categories and has had friends and relationships but they never lasted any longer than a month or two unless they were very useful in some way. Him and I unfortunately don't have the best relationship as brothers, he's never liked me and claims I'm a 'wannabe hero' even though this isn't true. Our relationship has gotten to the point where it's just doing favors for each other, but I feel like he just uses me for many reasons.
So my current problem which I'm asking for advice over,
Darwin met a girl a year and a half ago he met Alice, she's a lot younger than him and is still in college. I spoke to her after a few months of them being together, I knew I was risking possibly getting my ass beat but I couldn't stand the anxiety I had about what Darwin would eventually do to her, basically heartbreak her like all those other girls so I told her about Darwin's diagnosis and informed her about what psychopathy is, this didn't really go to plan as she never took this as a sign to get away from him but instead dedicated herself to stay with him and from many conversations we've had, said that Darwin told her how the other girls never really loved him and Alice intrigues him as she seems so different. I think he's taking advantage of the fact he somehow knows I told Alice he's a psychopath and convinced her that she's managed to 'change him.' Darwin doesn't personally believe psychopathy even exists besides from in movies, so he thinks its utterly fictional. I don't think Alice is stupid, she seems like such a bright girl and is doing well in college but she's really getting her brain turned to mush by Darwin and it's making it hard for me to sleep at night. Sexual, emotional and mental abuse has been involved in his previous relationships, most of those girls befriended me and basically talked to me throughout the whole thing, in the end both them and even their family becomes affected. They're all so young as easily fooled.
I'm extremely afraid of the consequences if I yet again try to break apart Alice's relationship with Darwin, the fact that she loves him so much despite what she knows is so sweet, she even knows she's in danger but says she'll deal with it. But she really doesn't know what she's doing, I've tried countless times to talk her out of it but she won't listen or take any of the advice I give her. I care about her so much and she's family at this point, she's already being abused/manipulated and doesn't realize it. Shes spent so much time educating herself on psychopathy and personality disorders / psychology in general, she wants to be a psychologist when she gets out of college. I really want her to get out of the relationship safely before she really is in serious danger. It's not physical abuse so I can't get the police involved. I'm so stuck.
