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I'm Addicted To Food & I Don't Know How To Stop

CanadianDave

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I'm finally trying to get my health (mental and physical) and life back together and, in these last 4 months, I've made so many positive changes (I've walked every day, multiple times a day, and have been doing light household exercises / long overdue deep house cleaning every day, no skipped days, for 4 months now, after many many years of inactivity and addiction) but I still eat. A lot. All the time. Before bed especially.
Eating helps me feel comforted, loved, less alone, more relaxed.

And I am alone 85-90 percent of the time, especially since my beloved dog Beefy passed away last September.

I am severely obese and have enormous double thighs and cannot use normal toilets / showers anymore.

I have gotten a lot of my strength and mobility back in the last 4 months but I am still SOOOO heavy and still eat soooo badly.

Please help!

36, feeling desperate.

Thanks in advance for any replies.
 
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hi Dave

im so sorry to hear about Beefy ,
what sort of dog was he ?

you've overcome other addictions so there is hope for this one too .
I have a problem with over eating also

well done for all that cleaning
you are doing better than me on that !

maybe you need to start small with the food and exercise
go for short walks
and try to include some healthy food in your diet
even if its not all the time

I eat mostly healthy food at the moment,
with a few treats here and there
its healthy food but still a bit too much

I weighed myself today and it had not gone up
I only weigh myself once a month or it gets obsessive

what about the loneliness,
do you have a well being hub in your area ?
I found mine very helpful, I moved on from it now
but it provided me with a social life at one time

and there I was allowed to be however I was
I was not expected to be in a good mood or anything
nobody was judging me
and if anyone made any non PC comments ,
they are told that is not allowed

looking forward to hearing how it goes

:grouphug:
 
CanadianDave

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hi Dave

im so sorry to hear about Beefy ,
what sort of dog was he ?

you've overcome other addictions so there is hope for this one too .
I have a problem with over eating also

well done for all that cleaning
you are doing better than me on that !

maybe you need to start small with the food and exercise
go for short walks
and try to include some healthy food in your diet
even if its not all the time

I eat mostly healthy food at the moment,
with a few treats here and there
its healthy food but still a bit too much

I weighed myself today and it had not gone up
I only weigh myself once a month or it gets obsessive

what about the loneliness,
do you have a well being hub in your area ?
I found mine very helpful, I moved on from it now
but it provided me with a social life at one time

and there I was allowed to be however I was
I was not expected to be in a good mood or anything
nobody was judging me
and if anyone made any non PC comments ,
they are told that is not allowed

looking forward to hearing how it goes

:grouphug:
Have been doing daily walks, a few times daily, every day, no days skipped, for 4 months now!

Very proud of myself and feeling much better.

But I'm still sooooo big and I still eat soooo badly.

Thank you for your kind and encouraging post!
 
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Hi,
I'm so sorry to hear about Beefy, you are really doing well increasing your exercise.
I'm obese and disabled to, I comfort eat.
Have you ever tried any therapy?
Hope you'll be happier very soon.
Please do keep us updated.
Take care
 
CanadianDave

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Hi,
I'm so sorry to hear about Beefy, you are really doing well increasing your exercise.
I'm obese and disabled to, I comfort eat.
Have you ever tried any therapy?
Hope you'll be happier very soon.
Please do keep us updated.
Take care
I've tried therapy on and off a couple times years ago.

I was not ready / would just lie to the therapists, tell them stories I thought they would want to hear.

I want to start now, as I finally feel I am ready, but my transportation / mobility options are very limited right now due to my severe obesity.

At least when I was drinking heavily I wasn't eating nearly as much!
 
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thats great about the walks !

when you say you eat badly what do you mean ?
like takeaways and stuff ?

im not a dog person but I do love cocker spaniels !
must have been real cute
do you have a picture of him ?

:grouphug:
 
princesscookie19

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Im overweight aswell .. Maybe calm down and swap foods. what IS your favourite food anyways? I stopped binge eating I just drank coffee when I need to binge
 
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Hi.Dave hey its difficult to give up unhealthy foods
Even though I'm on the low scale of acceptable weight for my height I've had other health issues in regards to my diet.
But if you do eat something unhealthy try eat a couple of pieces of fruit afterwards have a healthy smoothy.
People I know despite trying to lose weight can't but try and focus on what nutrients you need and incorporate that to your diet
 
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So sorry to hear about your problems.
You need to develop other ways to cope with emotional problems like sharing with other people. Coming here is a step in the right direction.
Exercising is healthy but the most effective way to lose body fat is by eating healthy. I wish you the best!
 
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I heard that something that helps is eating fruits or vegetables everytime you have a strong craving. Eating a whole apple or carrot sticks actually really helps but if you also want, you can try the same with cups of ice. When I feel anxious or want to eat without feeling hunger I taking some ice cubes and eat them and it kind of makes me full? Idk that works for me hope it does for you too :D
 
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I agree with @Snow you should eat veggies and fruits until your full. Preferably only 2-3 meals per day and no snacks. Stop eating junk food because it is toxic: no oil, salt, sugar or processed food.
 
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What about making homemade stews with exotic veggies. Like Irish stew, curries, homemade baked beans... you can get creative
 
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Hi CanadianDave,

Have you been to your doctor to ask for advice on losing weight safely?

What do you eat in a typical day? I used myfitnesspal for a while to track my eating and it really really helped me figure out why I was putting on weight.

I need to lose weight as I've been overeating while I've been on this medication so I really feel your struggle, have just been hungry constantly.

One thing I found really helpful was the idea - is this worth the calories?

There are lots of things which are delicious and low in calories like strawberries so you can eat a whole punnet and still not feel bad. And the fibre is good for you. Or plum tomatoes is another one, or clementines.

There is something called ANDI scores which are nutrient values based on calories (not explained it very well) but if you Google ANDI scores, there's a good chart from Dr Fuhrman.

If you have an uncontrollable appetite, but stick to things with a high ANDI score you'll still be fine, because you're not taking in too many calories.

What foods do you like? Do you enjoy cooking?

If I really need to lose weight sometimes I do a soup diet where I make giant pots of vegetable soup (no pulses or grains or rice) and eat literally as much as I want of the soup, three big bowls if I want it, and the weight drops off. It's really easy to follow because once you've made it it's there and you don't have to worry about counting calories or portion control.

If you can't portion control and you need to graze constantly, fruits and veg like everyone else has suggested are really the way forward.

Also substituting ingredients out for homemade low cal versions, like homemade 'sorbet' made from frozen hibiscus tea which has no calories in it as it's just infused water but tastes sweet.

What snacks do you eat so we can suggest alternatives?

How many meals do you have a day?

Do you know how many calories you're eating?
 
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Great post @Worriedyin ! I am a nutritarian myself and it has changed my life. How long have you been a nutritarian?
 
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