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Brokenwatch

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today i was driving home and I don’t know how to explain what I was feeling but i just started crying. I kept thinking what if I just didn’t stop? If I didn’t come home would anyone notice ? I’m home. I’m fine... this isn’t urgent. I just can’t stop crying, I’m scared. I’m scared because I know this isn’t who I am. I’m scared because I didn’t go through some dramatic event. I don’t deserve to feel this way. People have it so much worse and get through it why can’t I have a normal day. I stopped talking to all of my friends so I don’t have anyone to talk to. And even when I did have friends I never said anything because i felt like I was seeking attention. the only reason I can talk about it now is because nobody knows who I am on here. Please what is wrong with me. Someone. Anyone
 
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Zero One

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It sounds like you are very considerate and very careful with the feelings of others while not wanting to be certain things ...like a pest. This makes for a delicate balance because a lot of what you are is perfect and ideal but you are not likely to encounter the same in others and probably do not want to feel the inattentiveness from others to strong and serious things you are experiencing.
 
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Brokenwatch

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Dear Brokenwatch,

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I want you to know that I’m thinking of you and am sure a lot of us here are worried about you. We want you to live the life you deserve.

What you can do for yourself at the moment—to start with: be kind to yourself. You seem to be carrying an underlying guilt. Where did this come from? Everyone goes through their own sh*t in life. It’s okay if what breaks you down is a piece of burnt toast while in the other end of the world what breaks someone else down is starvation. This is pain. For both of you. Both of you are suffering and the size of your suffering sometimes does not make the pain less. So it’s okay, Brokenwatch. Please be kinder to yourself.

Understand that sadness/anxiety is most of the time the result of an underlying trauma/troubling thoughts. Understand that pain happens. Understand that there’s hope—that you can always choose to do something about it.

The only time you are allowed to look backward to your past is when you want to connect the dots—to understand life as a full circle, to understand that pain goes away, to understand that your life will get better only if you allow it.

Don't beat yourself up over things you do a little differently than others. Don't beat yourself up when you are slower than what you've planned in mind. Focus on what you want to do next. I wake up on some days fighting fears; trying not to think too much and instead see the To Do List and do. Just do. I missed goals and at times I was slower than what’s on the paper. Small progress is still a progress. Find what works for you—write it on a Post-It, write it on a whiteboard. Write helpful reminders for yourself.


Things to remember:


1. You are enough (let go of others’ expectations)
2. You are not what your self-sabotaging brain tell you; you are better and you will get better by days
3. Sleep enough (it's important to maintain your mental health: rest is power—you will feel more in control I promise you)
4. Eat enough: healthily and regularly
5. Breathe! Close your eyes and just breathe!

You will be okay, Brokenwatch, you are okay. You are not broken. You are healed. You are okay.

We love you.

❤
You’re such an amazing person ! I can’t imagine an event in my life that would cause me to feel this way. I stay up at night thinking if anyone Would care or if their are really people out their like me and after joining this group and seeing everyone’s stories and hearing you, a stranger, tell me I’m not worthless.. it helps. I feel less alone. Thank you 💕
 
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Pollypop

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Dear Brokenwatch,

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I want you to know that I’m thinking of you and am sure a lot of us here are worried about you. We want you to live the life you deserve.

What you can do for yourself at the moment—to start with: be kind to yourself. You seem to be carrying an underlying guilt. Where did this come from? Everyone goes through their own sh*t in life. It’s okay if what breaks you down is a piece of burnt toast while in the other end of the world what breaks someone else down is starvation. This is pain. For both of you. Both of you are suffering and the size of your suffering sometimes does not make the pain less. So it’s okay, Brokenwatch. Please be kinder to yourself.

Understand that sadness/anxiety is most of the time the result of an underlying trauma/troubling thoughts. Understand that pain happens. Understand that there’s hope—that you can always choose to do something about it.

The only time you are allowed to look backward to your past is when you want to connect the dots—to understand life as a full circle, to understand that pain goes away, to understand that your life will get better only if you allow it.

Don't beat yourself up over things you do a little differently than others. Don't beat yourself up when you are slower than what you've planned in mind. Focus on what you want to do next. I wake up on some days fighting fears; trying not to think too much and instead see the To Do List and do. Just do. I missed goals and at times I was slower than what’s on the paper. Small progress is still a progress. Find what works for you—write it on a Post-It, write it on a whiteboard. Write helpful reminders for yourself.


Things to remember:


1. You are enough (let go of others’ expectations)
2. You are not what your self-sabotaging brain tell you; you are better and you will get better by days
3. Sleep enough (it's important to maintain your mental health: rest is power—you will feel more in control I promise you)
4. Eat enough: healthily and regularly
5. Breathe! Close your eyes and just breathe!

You will be okay, Brokenwatch, you are okay. You are not broken. You are healed. You are okay.

We love you.

❤
What an absolutely amazing response.
I have gained so much by reading it.
I’m sure many others will too.

Are you qualified or work in mental health in any way?
If not, you should.

Thank you 😊
 
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It is indeed a thin line between one word and another that inspires one to carry on for just one more day. And when you go to sleep tonight, Pollypop, please remember that you, you've just saved my life by making my day! ❤

“I don’t believe in magic,”
the young boy said,
and the old man smiled,
“You will, when you see her.”

(Atticus, Love Her Wild: Poems. Dedicated to Pollypop)

Thank YOU.
I truly don’t know what to say.
You have made today worth living for, and to re-read your post,
many days to come. ❤
 
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treasurebox

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When lonely and alone, remember that you matter. Remember that you are important in this world and to the people around you. You are special and you are loved. There are so many heartful, lovely, joyful and meaningful opportunities waiting for you. Remember to always look at your strengths and the beauty inside you. You are empowered and made to be strong and courageous. Enjoy life.
 
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Pollypop

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When lonely and alone, remember that you matter. Remember that you are important in this world and to the people around you. You are special and you are loved. There are so many heartful, lovely, joyful and meaningful opportunities waiting for you. Remember to always look at your strengths and the beauty inside you. You are empowered and made to be strong and courageous. Enjoy life.
I’m really glad I read this today.
I haven’t been feeling any of these things.
In fact exactly the opposite.

I shall copy this into my journal.
 
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bazza

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It can be very hard to be strong sometimes when ure brain is bombarding ure head that ufeel really down ive been there many times before and its bad again now nothing seems normal,but being on this forum does ease it thank god all we can do is hope tomorrow is a better day.people on here do understand what we are going through.x
 
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YogiLife

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You're human. Nothing is wrong with you.
 
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cloudskies

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today i was driving home and I don’t know how to explain what I was feeling but i just started crying. I kept thinking what if I just didn’t stop? If I didn’t come home would anyone notice ? I’m home. I’m fine... this isn’t urgent. I just can’t stop crying, I’m scared. I’m scared because I know this isn’t who I am. I’m scared because I didn’t go through some dramatic event. I don’t deserve to feel this way. People have it so much worse and get through it why can’t I have a normal day. I stopped talking to all of my friends so I don’t have anyone to talk to. And even when I did have friends I never said anything because i felt like I was seeking attention. the only reason I can talk about it now is because nobody knows who I am on here. Please what is wrong with me. Someone. Anyone

i have experience this too a lot of times. a lot of times at uni, but one time i got caught because i was crying while rushing to the bathroom. one of my friend’s boyfriend, who is my classmate, unfortunately caught me and told my friend about it. i didn’t know what i was feeling and i just couldn’t stop crying. when this happens, i also tend to alienate myself from my friends. so nobody really knows what’s wrong with me. even i don’t know what’s going on with me. i also think i’m being very ungrateful because nothing bad happened for me to feel like this... i’m sorry if this makes you feel worse i just wanted to say that you’re not alone in this. i feel exactly the same..
 
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bazza

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You are certainly not alone I also feel like crying for no reason everything at home is good etc but it still happens ,I find it ok for so long then down I go again for no reason whatsoever.have seen ure gp and get soom help ie talking theraphies or antidepressants that is the best thing to do.At least on this forum people do understand what ure going through,other people who don't have mental health problems don't understand at all.hope u feelabit better soon.x
 
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