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I wish I could date someday...

frisas45

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I'm 28, I never had any romantic relationships before. And when I do, I wish to date a person who is a gentle. Someone who don't have a short fuse. I dealt with many frustrating individuals who goes off in anger. I'm fed up with them. Moreover, friends who are good didn't have time for me. Everyone's like that nowadays. Too busy to make their ends meet rather than hang out with each other. Not even once a week! Even once a month is too taxing. Many people are too occupied with their work to even commence a frend-to-friend meeting. And try doing that in here in South Korea, where people work the longest.
They study excessive hours (sleeping less than 4 hours) just to get into the workplaces that will work your butt off more.

But when the day comes, I don't think I would be lonely anymore. If I date with a gentle person, this dating would make up for this cruddy problem. Although dating may cause other problems, dating would cause a great boost-up to loneliness...

I wish that day would come...
 
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Sorry your feeling lonely. Are there any hobbies or such like that have groups that you could join in. That’s the best way to meet someone then you know you would have similar interests. But its better to be on your own then settle for second best
 
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But its better to be on your own then settle for second best
I wish to be alone, but I'm not in a good situation. I can't get a job. It's competitive in Korea, and economy's down. Even US is not safe from this problem. High expenses keep me from living alone. Besides, even if I have the capability, I can't live alone even if I wanted to. My parents worry like hell if I leave them. They didn't make smart choices, but they cared for me. I can't leave...
 
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I wish to be alone, but I'm not in a good situation. I can't get a job. It's competitive in Korea, and economy's down. Even US is not safe from this problem. High expenses keep me from living alone. Besides, even if I have the capability, I can't live alone even if I wanted to. My parents worry like hell if I leave them. They didn't make smart choices, but they cared for me. I can't leave...
And living alone is second best. I need human connection from decent (although not perfect) people.
 
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im 39 and had my first boyfriend this year x he is really gentle and lovely ,I hope you find someone as special one day xxx
 
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Hi frisas!

Are there any support groups you can attend? Maybe it's easier to meet someone who has similar experiences as you. I think you're very tough on yourself. I had to learn to give myself some wiggle room in order to open myself up to more opportunities to enjoy the present.
 
frisas45

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Hi frisas!

Are there any support groups you can attend? Maybe it's easier to meet someone who has similar experiences as you. I think you're very tough on yourself. I had to learn to give myself some wiggle room in order to open myself up to more opportunities to enjoy the present.
I don't have support groups that can prepare me for a girlfriend yet, and I need to graduate from a college first. Thanks!;)
:grouphug:
 
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Hi frisas!

Lol, not a support group that prepares you for a girlfriend, but a support group where you can meet like minded individuals. Do you have any clubs you can join at school? You know, how else will you find a girlfriend if you dont meet new people? :)
 
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Hi frisas!

Lol, not a support group that prepares you for a girlfriend, but a support group where you can meet like minded individuals. Do you have any clubs you can join at school? You know, how else will you find a girlfriend if you dont meet new people? :)
I get your point... but I need to graduate from a college first. I wish I could join an anime club, but my college don't have one. :( In Korea, they just struggle from school to work, worse than US.
 
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im 39 and had my first boyfriend this year x he is really gentle and lovely ,I hope you find someone as special one day xxx
Wow! That's unbelievable! Lucky you! :)

You're 39 and you're having a first boyfriend? I thought being 39 means it's too late... :(
 
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I get your point... but I need to graduate from a college first. I wish I could join an anime club, but my college don't have one. :( In Korea, they just struggle from school to work, worse than US.
I mean, I can't join a club. It's all the same. Korea's too busy. Even busier than US.
 
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