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I want to help him



New member
Dec 27, 2020
I need to see how I can help my partner. He is currently suffering depression, he admits this himself and says he knows he needs help but keeps putting it off. I’m desperate for him to seek help now as it is affecting his ability to be a parent. We are currently living apart but I want him to come home badly.
I try to talk to him but he feels like i am to blame for all of his depression, it’s because of me he is so unhappy. He says he doesn’t think he loves me anymore (he shows this is not true and has a number of times told me he still does), he had an affair as in his words he was looking for happiness.
He doesn’t realise that how he feels towards me could all be part of the depression. I’ve asked him to just trust me on this and seek help and we can make the big decisions once he is feeling better as he is now trying to pull away again after spending some time trying to get us back on track.
Please tell me there is hope not just for him but for our relationship, has anyone been through similar and come out the other side? I will be there to support him no matter what happens in our relationship but I need to protect myself and my own mental health too.


Well-known member
Feb 27, 2020
Nashua NH
Hi BT14 welcome to the forums. I don’t have experience with this so I’m going to let someone else respond here but I just wanted to welcome you here. We are glad to have you with us. xo, j
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