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I visited him in hospital

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I knew this would knock me out
my addict brother had pneumonia and nearly died
today I went to visit with my stepmother

my stepmother was very impressive actually
so that the damage is less than usual
but I'm very traumatised when I see him
he is paper thin and looks like a skeleton

I also forgot to take my afternoon meds
so at times we were sitting there in silence
both of us feeling overwhelmed

he has difficulty breathing

my aunt and my dad want to not go there
and get the news from me
which I dont feel I can do this time

and on top of a boiler breakdown and flooding !

war zone for me at the moment

any tips on dealing with this kind of shock ?
 
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thanks Midnights, well step mother came today
but I always have to ask them, and make a good case for them to come

she did really well today though
and is going to speak to my Dad so I dont have to

:hug:
 
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Hi Zoe,
I'm so sorry about your brother, it can indeed be a shock when loved ones are ill.
I'm glad you have some family support.
Hugs
 
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awww thankyou Mayflower and Midnight
this makes such a big difference to me to have this here

otherwise I would be just on my own dwelling on his condition

:loveshower: :loveshower: ✨
 
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I'm glad you visited him @Zoe1 .I'm sorry it was so hard on you seeing him that way though.

If you haven't seen him in awhile it can be really shocking to see how badly a heroin addicts body deteriorates. It's because once they get so deep into their addiction it becomes their number one priority in life,even over eating.Most of them end up looking like a skeleton.

And with pneumonia on top of it,I can imagine how sickly he looks.

But,at least he's where he needs to be in order to get better/healthy.And hopefully he will get well soon and also seek treatment for his addiction.

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thanks Sunny

actually there were some positives, he is much nicer in hospital
on a load of morphine, than with whatever rubbish he prescribes himself

hes getting on very well with one of the male nurses
and with the hostel staff who have been visiting him,
he said were like a second family to him

its a long shot, I think maybe a 5 % chance the penny willl drop
about how to get help

if he could just sit through an AA meeting without arguing with them
he might grasp what it takes

:hug5: 🎄
 
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awwww thankyou Midnights

you guys are making such a big difference to me with this

:grouphug:
 
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if he could just sit through an AA meeting without arguing with them
he might grasp what it takes

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Getting off heroin will take way more than AA. Have you ever been around someone that's going through heroin withdrawals? It's a horrible sight,the shaking,vomiting,shitting themselves,etc.

I'm sure your brother isn't going through it with the morphine they're giving him though.

Here in the US they put them in a hospital to detox and give them suboxone to get off of it.
 
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thanks Sunny

no I have not seen the withdrawal

as I understand it you can visit an AA meeting or NA
before you give up your substances
yes that in itself would not work
but it could give you the motivation to seek professional help
by being around all these successful recoverees

a really big part of addiction
is about being around other addicts all the time
which saps your motivation

my brother has been to meetings
but only to argue with the people doing service there
which obviously wouldn't work
 
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