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i think my son is suffering with deprresion....HELP!

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I think my 10 year old son is suffering with depression. 3 years ago he was diagnosed with ADHD, i think his medication might be causing the depression and anger. I would love some advice as today we had a really bad outburst from him where he wanted to kill himself. If anyone has any advice i would really appreciate it.
 
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So sorry to hear about this, I'm afraid I'm of no use with childhood mental health conditions but I would say get him back to his GP asap and they should be able to change his meds to something more suitable. Good Luck x
 
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Hi
Well, sorry for your son, I've been in his situation as a child too.
What medication does he take? Because my mom used to give me homeopathic calming pills when I was about 7-8 years old, and it drove me insane too. When I was 11, I had hard times with two loving relatives' deaths & I got fired from school for things I haven't done in the same month, that's when I landed in a psychiatric hospital for a couple of weeks where I was diagnosed with a depressive syndrom.
I'm french, so as you can see my english isn't perfect, so I don't know what's ADHD, but I can guess it's similar to what I've been diagnosed 10 years ago.
I've been living well with this problem, until my dad had mental health issues too in 2004. Since then, depression worsened and worsened with time. I've been on meds for the past 5 months, and I'm swinging between really great times, and very deep down depression.
So, as an advice, I would tell you to take care of your son's mental health and of yours too!

Take care, hope I helped you.
 
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Thanks for getting in touch. My son is on risperadone and strattera. He has a drs appointment this morning, i just hope they take me seriously and try not to fob me off. Again thanks for responding its good to know that there are people who understand.
 
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I hope everything went okay today jn. Was your sons GP any help (or like mine and useless!!)
 
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i hope your gp was of some use this morning.

let us know!
 
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I'm sorry to hear you and your son had such a bad outburst. I hope the Doctor was actually helpful. It must be really hard for you, I used to be really angry and hurtful to my own mum when I was your sons age. Try not get to upset by it, if he is depressed, a lot of what his saying is the anger that comes with it and the fact your worried about him shows how much you care and I'm sure he knows that. The fact that your taking your concerns to the Doctor is a very good step I think.
 
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Thankyou all for your concern. I did take him to my gp and he was out of his depth a could n't really help. Then thursday he got so bad he was admitted into hospital and saw the child pyschaitrist, who is trying to fast track him through the system but could take 4-12 weeks, until he is in the system we are on our own.Its so hard to find help with mental health issues and that is so wrong. I hope everyone is doing ok and hope to hear from you soon.
 
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aw jn, its so frustrating and I've only got to deal with my own problems, to have to support your son through this must be absolutely heartbreaking for you. If I were you I'd just keep going back and going back until they did something. 4-12 weeks is completely unacceptable for anyone to have to wait let alone a child!! The support for people with mental health issues in this country is absolutely abominable and the more experiences I see on this forum the more angry I get.
 
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Your right it is so frustating, when we were getting him admitted at a&e they didn't know what to put down as the problem and they just put 'unwell child' I was so angry. Because they can't see it no one knows how to deal with it or what to call it. Then you get aked is it an emergancy and i want to scream 'Well my 10 yr old son wants to die and wants to do it to himself, yes i do believe it is a bloody emergency'. I just don't understand why mental health services are so limited, when so many children and adults are suffering from it. Sorry, i could go on ranting for hours, but i won't. I just wish i could do something to make it all better.
 
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My little girls only a year younger than your son so I understand your anger, I'm getting angry just reading your experience!! All you want to do is make them all better, as I say it must be heartbreaking. How can they live with themselves letting a poor child go through this, surely in this day and age there must be something someone can do!! As I say I think every outburst he has I would take him to either your gp or the hospital then they will have to do something. But then thats really not good for him either. I hope you get something sorted soon, my thoughts are with you. xx:hug:
 
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Thankyou so much, knowing that there is people who can understand is a great help. Thanks again. Take care.:flowers:
 
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Hiya,
I do hope things have calmed down a bit.
I myslef suffer from depression and also have experience working with kids and ADHD etc, thou not an expert.
What sort of behaviour does he show?
Does anything trigger it and how is your family life?

Most adults find it hard to understand why they feel like they do, do for a child it must be horrid. Also, for the parents and carers it really hurts to see them like that.

It is soo sad to hear of kids so young being affected by mental health issues. I have found out that people dont get any real help until it becomes really seriousHave a read on "netdoctor" I found this site great for all sorts of problems.

Fingers crossed for you.
 
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Unfortunately GPs are people who deal with general issues and refer to specialists so it's not surprising that your GP was out of his/her depth on this one. There are waiting lists yes but an emergency or a fast track should out an adult, let alone a child, into the MH system in days rather than weeks. That's not an acceptable time to wait by anyone's standards. Have you been in touch with your local PALS for some help? They may be able to help you by giving you on the spot moral support. If your son continues to be unwell then take him to A & E.
 
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