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Heavensoul
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I am in a relationship with a potential ROCD, no longer sure what to do (difficult situation)
It will be a long post, so please bear with me and I appreciate you reading the whole thing.
We met 3 years ago online, we were friends for 2 years and then I visited twice and proposed and was ready to move with her. We were about to move in until Covid happened and had to postpone it but then we found a way to meet again and we had our wedding ready and everything was going smooth, we surely had few arguments but I believe normal arguments, doesn't seem like it to her though.
So after I left my job, my family and everything back and took out all of my savings and 2 weeks before marriage she decided to cancel it due to me "not respecting her" " not listening" "not cleaning as much as she is" and many more reasons that are definitely workable and not relationship breaker, especially that she used to tell me about what she is bothered about and I legit was thinking it's because of corona and her being anxious about it and the stress that was added to everyone's life but she never got me to understand exactly because I simply did not even though I have tried, she also made assumptions about what I used to say "for example, if I asked her to do something on her way to home or something" she would assume I am treating her as a secretary which was weird. The wedding started to get closer and she was stressing and not coming up with a straight answer until last minute she cancelled everything.
I tried to be understandable and said maybe it was better not to go through it, and asked her what she wants to do now. She said she does not want to break up but doesn't know what to do either and things just kept going worse and worse (we are living together still), after that she said she doesn't think she loves me anymore to which she regrets the next day and said I don't think it's true and that she felt sadness and started crying when she said it and then few weeks she now broke up with me but I am not sure how I can go back or what to do since I put everything into this and it seems she just wants me away and I feel unwanted and really shitty at the moment.
I don't know what to do or feel at the moment, is this ROCD? Should I just leave or what do I do?
It will be a long post, so please bear with me and I appreciate you reading the whole thing.
We met 3 years ago online, we were friends for 2 years and then I visited twice and proposed and was ready to move with her. We were about to move in until Covid happened and had to postpone it but then we found a way to meet again and we had our wedding ready and everything was going smooth, we surely had few arguments but I believe normal arguments, doesn't seem like it to her though.
So after I left my job, my family and everything back and took out all of my savings and 2 weeks before marriage she decided to cancel it due to me "not respecting her" " not listening" "not cleaning as much as she is" and many more reasons that are definitely workable and not relationship breaker, especially that she used to tell me about what she is bothered about and I legit was thinking it's because of corona and her being anxious about it and the stress that was added to everyone's life but she never got me to understand exactly because I simply did not even though I have tried, she also made assumptions about what I used to say "for example, if I asked her to do something on her way to home or something" she would assume I am treating her as a secretary which was weird. The wedding started to get closer and she was stressing and not coming up with a straight answer until last minute she cancelled everything.
I tried to be understandable and said maybe it was better not to go through it, and asked her what she wants to do now. She said she does not want to break up but doesn't know what to do either and things just kept going worse and worse (we are living together still), after that she said she doesn't think she loves me anymore to which she regrets the next day and said I don't think it's true and that she felt sadness and started crying when she said it and then few weeks she now broke up with me but I am not sure how I can go back or what to do since I put everything into this and it seems she just wants me away and I feel unwanted and really shitty at the moment.
I don't know what to do or feel at the moment, is this ROCD? Should I just leave or what do I do?