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Ill cut to the chase. I met and have been talking with someone that I felt real feelings for. She doesn't feel the same way. Been crying now off and on for close to an hour. I thought we were forming a real connection. Good back and forth in conversations. Shared values and similar interests. Shared laughter at each others jokes. But then she tells me she doesnt see me as more than a friend and that we shouldnt spend any time together because it would be hard to remain just friends if I like her. Because spending time with her would only make me like her more, which is true. Why does no one ever feel for me like I do for them. Not once in my entire life has anyone regarded me in the same way. What am I doing wrong? How is it seemingly so easy for everyone else to have what I have never been able to find? I dont want to live this life alone but no one wants to share it with me. The irony is I will probably live to be 100 years old and hating every solitary minute of it.
 
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Ive been through that many times. It sucks man. But try not to lose hope, their are alwsys more ladies out there and youll Find the right eventually. Im sure its not you, just gotta find right compatibility.

Its not easy for everyone else as it seems. It just seems that way when youre lonely.
 
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By my age you would think that I would have at least experienced at least even a minor bit of love. But not once.
 
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How old are you if you dont mind ? It sounds like you have experienced feelings just not had them reciprocated. Which is something every person goes through.
 
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Im 36. I dont know what Im doing wrong, no one ever feels the same for me as I do for them. Not even since I was young, through my teens, to 20's to now. No one I ever approach feels the same way. Something in me makes me incompatible.
 
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The only reason I got once was that I was in fact too old. And that was when I was 31. That hurt me immensely and that was 5 years ago. Other than that, no, I dont get reasons more than something like I just dont like you like that.
 
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No. Id consider myself to be at least average maybe above average. Most people think I am 10 years younger than I am. So, I know I dont look bad. Im not out of shape/overweight. I dont know what it is. People seem to sense something about me that makes them keep their distance. I have never know love. I dont even know what its like to hold someones hand. I feel more lonely every day and its just gets harder to fight to keep going.
 
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Wow man I honestly dont know. It must just be a vibe you put off. But i can say without a doubt their is someone for everyone. So dont give up.
 
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Well, the problem is I hurt too much to want to try anymore. All I feel anymore is a massive gaping hole in my being that stems from not having anyone. How do you fix that when all you've ever known is rejection? When no one ever feels an attraction to you what do you do? Honestly its a miracle that Im not addicted to drugs or alcohol.
 
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Nothing fills loneliness hole except another person. Just maybe try dating apps with a real honest profile. See what happens. I just got a divorce, so i can identify with having a hole. I dont know how long its gonna be before mine ever gets filled again.
 
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Finding good friends is hard enough, finding a partner can feel impossible x
 
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